A journey to remember..

Bila adik nangis..

2010-08-04T23:19:00.000+01:00

Pernah tak bila kita nangis teresak2,

adakalanya kita jadi susah nak berhenti menangis...

Anak dara bertuahku yang sorang tu kadang2 memang suka menangis..

Kadang sampai teresak2 susah nak berhenti..

So selalu bila dia nangis macam tu aku surah dia sebut Allah..Allah..Allah...

Cakap dengan dia yangkita kena selalu ingat Allah.. supaya sentiasa tenang

Jadinya... sekarang bila adik dia nangis je dia pun sebut Allah..Allah

suruh adik dia yang baru nak masuk 7 bulan tu sebut

boleh ke camtu? heheh.. tersenyum sendiri bila aku dengar dia sebut Allah kat adik dia..

I'M SO PROUD OF YOU LIL'P...

ALHAMDULILLAH ATAS KECERDIKAN YANG KAU KURNIAKAN PADA ANAK2 KU YA ALLAH

Happy 5th Birthday

2010-04-17T08:06:00.006+01:00

Happy Birthday Sayang Ummi

UK Election 2010

2010-04-14T12:06:00.000+01:00

Gordon Brown has finally confirmed that the next general election will take place on 6 May. This is the expected countdown to polling day.

I don't know why suddenly I am so interested with the election. Maybe because the way it is handled here. Every parties were given fair chances to campaign in the media. Very different from back home where only certain party controlled the media.

I never bother to read about the parties manifesto when I was back home before I cast for my vote. But here I go through their manifesto. Interesting!

source: bbc.co.uk

They are going to have the first prime ministerial debates on 15th April 2010 on ITV. Can't wait for that. Back in Malaysia I did watch the "Debat Perdana" between Dato' Sri Anwar Ibrahim Vs Datuk Shabery Cheek. I guess this will be more or less like that. It'll be more interesting if we can have the debates between Dato' Sri Najib vs Dato' Sri Anwar vs Dato' Sri Abdul Hadi Awang vs Karpal Singh. What do you think will happen?

Our New Family Member

2010-04-12T08:20:00.001+01:00

N3 tertunda 3 bulan yg lepas...

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Presenting Aidan Naqeeb...

Alhamdulillah, tepat jam 01:16 pagi pada 9 Januari 2010 bersamaan 24 Muharram 1431H yang lepas lahirlah penyeri hidup ummi dan ayah yang kedua, Aidan Naqeeb yang bermaksud pemimpin yang bijak. Semoga anak ummi dan ayah membesar dengan sihat dan menjadi anak yg soleh seiring dengan maksud namanya yang indah.

Proses kelahiran kali kedua yang ummi lalui kali ini memang begitu berlainan yang memberi seribu satu keinsafan. Kalau dulu di Malaysia, bila kita mula ada tanda² ingin bersalin, kita akan terus ke hospital. Semasa di Malaysia juga ummi bersalin di hospital swasta. Jadi macam semuanya mudah.

Tapi kali ini, cabarannya sungguh banyak. Dengan musim winter dan snownya.. memang begitu mencabar. Ummi start sakit untuk melahirkan pada 8 Januari 2010 pukul 01:30 pagi. Ummi rasa nak buang air kecil. Bila pergi ke toilet, ummi tengok dah ada darah keluar. So after that, ummi pun call labour ward tanya macamana. They said it's just a show. Tanda ummi dah ready for labour. Tapi midwife tu kata tak perlu datang ke hospital lagi sebab ummi belum ada contraction lagi. Fine. Ummi pun tunggu lah and sambung tidur balik. Pukul 04:30 ummi terjaga sebab rasa macam vaginal discharge and I presumed it's my water bag dah pecah. Contraction pun ada sikit2 dalam 10 minutes apart. Ummi relax lagi. Pukul 07:00 pagi, bangun baru call labour ward sekali lagi. Masa tu diorang cakap, ok u come to the triage in couple of hours. Couple of hours to kul 09:00 pagi le gamaknya. So me and ayah get ready, send Lil'P to school, mintak tolong dekat kak Maswa ambil Lil'P balik school in case ummi dah nak terberanak ke then after sent Lil'P to school, kami pun pegi ke hospital. Sampai kat triage, dia check ummi baru dilate 2cm. So dia suruh ummi balik dulu, dia jangka i might be coming back for labour later, tapi kalau ummi tak sakit nak bersalin jugak, the next day kul 3pm baru diorang akan induce. Punya lama lagi nak tunggu... So ummi and ayah pun balik, sempatlah kami berjalan2 kat Egham sekejap. Then balik rumah, still takde ape2 lagi. Petang, call kak Maswa, dia suggest ummi ngan ayah tidur kat rumah dia so that Lil'P tak terasa sangat kalau dia kena tido umah kak Maswa another night. Knowing her yang memang tak pernah tido ngan orang lain besides us and perangai dia yang suka nangis bila terjaga and nampak ummi takde so we decided tido kat situ. Malam tu around 10pm contraction dah 5-6 minutes apart tapi ummi leh tahan lagi. Try tido so that I won't feel the pain. Kul 11pm ummi terjaga, rasa sakit, so call labour room. Hmm... tau dia kata apa, she thinks I'm still ok, dia suh ummi makan paracetamol ataupun mandi. Mana ummi nak amik paracetamol ni? Ummi pun gi lah mandi... Aduss... memang tak tahan... Sampai kul 12:00 pagi contraction dah 2-3 minutes. Mandi pun dah. Sakit semakin kuat. Ummi call labour room skali lagi, dia dengar suara ummi dah semacam je, baru lah dia kata, ok make your way to Triage now. Tu lah, nak sangat bersalin kat UK. Dah nak terberanak sangat, baru lah ko leh pegi hospital... What an experience. Kluar lah ummi gi spital, dah lah kete kena frost plak.. kena bersihkan cermin baru boleh gerak.. memang satu cabaran lah... Sampai kat triage, boleh dia suruh ummi amik air kencing dulu (normal procedure). Ya rabbi... ummi yang dah nak terberanak ni gi lah toilet tapi nak kencing apa... rasa nak teran je... darah yg kluar... Pastu dia check tengok ummi dah 8cm dilated. Midwife terus tolak ummi gi labour room. Sampai sana, diorang terus get ready for labour. But one thing kat sini midwives sumer properly trained lah. They always positive. This time labour, ummi tak pakai any pain relief pun. No gas or air or what so ever. Ayah pun tabik spring ngan ummi pasal boleh endure all the pain. Alhamdulillah lah. The only time ummi amik gas pun masa dia do the stitches. Aduiii... Alhamdulillah it's all over... Betul lah orang cakap, once the baby is out, hilang sumer rasa sakit.. Alhamdulillah... sumer nya dipermudahkan Allah. Baby Aidan kluar kul 01:00 pagi, kul 04:00 pagi masuk ward, lebih kurang pukul 03:00 petang ummi dah balik rumah. Syukur Ya Allah kerana kau permudahkan segalanya.

3 months old Aidan

2010-04-12T06:57:00.000+01:00

After 3 months baru ummi dapat update cerita pasal Aidan ye. Actually last time dah tulis experience deliver kat UK but tak ler ter'publish' kat blog.

My 2 precious.

Kejap je dah 3 bulan.

That's my boy.

Hari yang mandom... BRRRRRRRRRRR...

2009-11-10T12:05:00.000Z

Hari ni hari yang mandom.

Suhu dekat sini 6°c.

Keluar umah nak pegi hantar Lil'P pegi sekolah, tengok² ujan plak.

Sejuk... Brrrrrr...

Lil'P pun complain hidung dia sakit... sejuk lah tuh...

Malasnya tuhan je yang tau.

Malas nak keluar rumah.

Malas nak buat pape.

Malas nak karang surat extension.

Malas nak buat transcribing.. abis la bro Zamri marah aku nanti lambat siapkan keje dia ni.

Semuanya malaslah...

Syndrome M is here!

Parcel from Home

2009-09-18T06:37:00.004+01:00

Last Tuesday we received a parcel from my SIL which contains our baju raya. Alhamdulillah this year we get to wear some new stuff although we'd brought our last year baju raya. Terima kasih maktok, makngah & maklang..

Experience hilang tepon

2009-08-28T05:14:00.004+01:00

Ni nak citer pasal acik yg sungguh la clumsy skrg ni.. semenjak 2 menjak preggie ni.. ada je.. terhantuk sana lah, lupa itu lah dan yg terbaru ni, acik tinggal aciknye tepon kat sopping outlet.. punyala sakan acik bersoping kan.. sampai terlupo kek mano acik lotak'an tepon acik... nak kata soping berabis tak jugak la..

masa gi manchester aritu, kawanku, cik yat bawak la kami pi soping kat boundary mill. boundary mill ni soping outlet. kat sini kalau outlet tu maknanya kita leh dapat barang2 branded dengan harga yg murah.. pasal aritu masa yat datang singgah umah acik masa dia baru balik dari cornwall sekali acik tengok kasut dia lawa banget.. acik tanya la dia beli kek mano? katanya kat boundary mill outlet rega dia GBP10 je, brand clarks lagiiiii.. mak ai.. murah tu.. tu yg dia bwk acik melawat outlet tu.. ngam2 plak time acik sampai umah dia outlet tu buat sale only for that day, acik pun apa lagi.. beria2 la nak poie.. sampai kek outlet, acik pun pusing2 la tgk kasut.. tengok2 la kot ado kasut skolah anak daro den yg nak masuk reception bulan 9 ni... takdo pun.. tau2 yo lah, size org asia ni kan kocik2, susah bonar la nak jumpo.. lopeh tu, acik pusing2 la nengok kasut acik lak.. pueh dah den tawaf.. dari clarks ke hush puppies.. takdo lah yg den berkonan.. kalau ado pun, chek punyo chek, lining kasut kek dalam tu dio pakai kulit 'babes' tu lak.. arrrggghhh... frust boto' den.. ni lah yg susah eh kalau dapat org cam den yg particular psl benda 'babes' ni.. tapi benda ni memang kita mesti particular... sudah semestinya kita nak pakai benda yg suci je kan kat badan kita... tapi kadang acik heran jugak ek.. camna org lain, yg muslim la, leh pakai barang yg ada 'benda' tu ek?? diorang tak tengok ke masa beli tu? boleh dikatakan sumer kasut clark guna lining kulit 'tu'.. ke diorang tak tau camna nak tgk lining yg kulit 'babes' tuh.. mungkin.... anyway... en. suami dah dapat dah kasut dia, acik jugak yg punya lama pusing takde jugak yg berkenan dihati.. punya la semangat nak gi outlet tu pasal nak beli kasut, last2 aku jugak yg tak beli.. selalu camtu tau...

back tu citer tepon acik tu.. ntah masa bila ntah acik tertinggal kan dia acik pun tak tau la.. agaknya masa acik tgh test my nur*ing *ra, acik bagi kat en. suami suh pegang since seluar yg acik pakai tu takde poket, and dia lak tak perasan gaknya yg acik suh pegangkan tepon tu.. masa tu lah agak eh tepon tu ilang... dah abis soping, balik umah yat, ingat kot tepon tu ada kat dalam keter ke apa.. ghupa2nya memang ntah ke mana... adusss.. memanglah kannnn...

balik dari kitaorg punya UK trip tu, acik pun cuba2 lah tepon outlet tu kot2 diorang ada jumpa tepon acik tu.. sekali kauuuu... ADAAAAAAAAA... alhamdulillah... acik pun suruh lah diorang tolong poskan.. dapat lah acik balik tepon tu... acik ingat, dulu kawan acik ada gak ilang tepon. dia tertinggal tepon dia dalam train somewhere in one of the european country gak la.. belgium ke mana ntah, dia buat lost report kat train station tu and she got back her phone. they even posted it back tu UK address. satu lah acik salute mat saleh ni.. walaupun kapir tapi their honesty level dia very high.. if they jumpa barang yg not belonging to you, they will return it to the authority.. kalau kat malaysia, ko tertinggal je tepon kat atas meja makan kat gerai ke, ke tinggal kat dalam teksi ke.. maknanya.. sodakollahulazim lah ko nye tepon tu.. sekelip mata je ilang... kenape ye budaya kita camtu???

hmmm... bila tepon sampai ke tangan acik pastu replacement sim sampai.. acik cuba lah pasang sim tuh.. tak boleh kauuu.. berhari2 ku tunggu.. mula ingat sim tu rosak.. 2-3 kali call provider.. diorang pun takleh resolve.. cuba lak beli sim card baru, tak boleh jugak.. aikk... apa sudah jadik ni... cuba lak sim card en. suami, pun takleh gak.. ohhh noooo... ADAKAH???? sekali acik cuba pasang sim card tu kat tepon lama yg dah tak digunakan, boleh pulak... TIDAKKKKK... dun tell me my samsung i-780 dah kaput... uhuk uhuk... mahal tau acik beli.... uwaaaaaaaaa...

jadi sekarang tepon acik dah back to basic lah.. no more the touch screen one, no more the QWERTY keypad one... terpaksa lah sekarang ni aku tekan2 keypad tu banyak2 kali utk type text messaging.. apo nak buek.... ni yg buat acik terpikir nak amik iphone lak nih... muahahahahaha.. boleh kah en. suami??????????????

Ramadhan 1430H

2009-08-22T19:40:00.001+01:00

Alhamdulillah, hari ini dah masuk hari kedua puasa and we have survived the 16th hours of puasa untuk hari pertama. Not so bad lah.. Sebelum ni pun ada gak cuba puasa sunat untuk practise Ramadhan ni.. Cuma malam tadi kami nyaris terbabas sahur. Jaga2 tengok jam dah pukul 3.15 pagi. Alamak, ada setengah jam je lagi sebelum waktu subuh masuk. Kelam kabut lah buat air panas and makan spaghetti goreng yang masak untuk dinner semalam.

Menu utama untuk buka puasa hari pertama ini ialah kari kepala ikan salmon dan italian salad (ni kes malas nak masak sayur). Desertnya ialah kuih tepung pelita bersama air laici. Tak pernah aku buat kuih tepung pelita ni, selalu kalau nak beli je.. tapi ni dah jauh diperantauan ni, semua kena buat sendiri. Tapi ok lah.. bila lagi nak belajar masak benda2 yang kita tak pernah masak kan??

Hmmm.. hari ini nak masak apa pulak ye untuk iftar???

Lontong & Jus Asam Boi

2009-06-03T14:41:00.003+01:00

Inilah bahananya kalau asyik melawat blog masakan. Tengok! Sekarang aku terasa nak makan lontong lah (yang siap ada letak tempe yg sudah semestinyalah takde dalam stok makanan aku) ngan air jus asam boi tu lah.. Semalam pegi oriental market kat uni nye student union, aku dah sambar 2 pack asam boi, pastu siap beli lime sekali dengan cita-cita kononnya nak buat sendiri jus tu. Ditambah dengan cuaca panas summer yang baru start ni, bahangnya sungguh terasa. Kalau dapat minum jus tu, NYAMANNNNNN!! Kalau berjaya buat nanti ku post gambarnya ya.

Dia pergi jua...

2009-03-07T06:52:00.003Z

Hari ini aku dapat berita yang baby Amir dah pergi buat selamanya. I have been a silent reader to to his father's blog. Ayah baby Amir adalah salah seorang pelajar Malaysia di Glassgow. Walaupun aku tidak mengenali secara peribadi kedua ibu-bapa baby Amir tetapi apabila membaca setiap bait kata ayahanda baby Amir, ianya begitu meruntun jiwa. Kini dia sudah kembali kepada penciptaNya. Biarlah dia tenang bersamaNya di sana. Sama-samalah kita sedekahkan Al-Fatihah buat baby Amir.

Something about Malaysia

2009-03-02T21:45:00.002Z

Today I was approached by Asha's teacher asking me if I can do some presentation to the nursery children about Malaysia tomorrow. It was such a short notice because they were quite busy with the school trip to Wisley Garden last Friday (which I intent to blog about but still finding time to write. Will do it ASAP). She asked me if I can show something about Malaysia, something that we eat, clothes that we wear, folklore song that we listen to, etc. Aha!

The fun part is when we came we left everything that remind us about my beloved country in the box that suppose to be shipped somewhere this month. I have prepared the Malaysian flag and some CD on malay children song thinking that my lil'Asha will have to present something about our culture and country but didn't expect it to be this soon. Huhuh. So... what am I going to show tomorrow? I have my baju kurung kedah with me. So me going to wear that tomorrow in this cold weather. What's next... I have borrowed from kak Maswa the kuih cara mould (thanks kak... you are my lifesaver) just now and have googled for the recipe. Hope my kuih cara will turn out well tomorrow. I have downloaded some children song but haven't decide yet what song I want to share with them. Any suggestion? Was thinking about enjit-enjit semut song. What is enjit-enjit in english??? What else?? I went for a quick shopping just now and find myself browsing the shelves if they have rambutan or durian. Hahaha... In your dream, mate. How nice if they sell durian ye...

Anyway, hope I can present something decent about my beloved country, Malaysia. Malaysia Truly Asia.. lalala....

Dah 3 minggu dah?

2009-01-30T16:54:00.003Z

Maaflah semenjak sampai ke negara yang sejuk ni, keinginan untuk mengemaskini blog ni dah semakin menurun serendah suhu negara ni yang berada ditahap 2 ke 5 darjah C hari ini. Hari ini dah 3 minggu kami berada di pekan Egham ni. Kecik je pekannya. Pekan koboi je. Takde shopping mall yg boleh dikunjungi kalau boring. A very good environment to study. Takde distraction langsung. Harapnya suami tercinta boleh la habiskan PhD dia on time.

Kami sampai di sini pada 16hb Januari yg lepas. Kami dihantar oleh keluarga dan kawan tercinta. Terima kasih tidak terhingga kerana sanggup menghantar kami di KLIA.

Sampai di Heathrow Airport kami dijemput oleh abang Zamri dan Rosli. Kemuadian kami dibawa
ke kediaman abang Rosli dan kak Maswa. Kiranya merekalah yang bersusah payah menjamu kami sarapan, makan tengahari kemudian bekalkan kami makanan lagi, menghantar kami ke rumah, membawa kami ke pekan untuk membeli barang2 keperluan asas. Terima kasih yang tak terhingga.

Alhamdulillah, semua kiranya dah settled down. Mr. I pun dah mula ke sekolah. Anaknya pun
dah sekolah. Tinggal aku je yang tak sekolah. Bila tengok Mr. I baca buku kat our lounge or
bila aku pi lepak kat opis dia, sungguh la aku jeles. Aku nak baca buku gak...
Takpe..takpe.. tunggu settle satu persatu ye.. tunggu Mr. I habis.. insyaAllah aku menyusul.

Rutin harian aku sekarang.. walaupun dah 3 minggu aku kat sini.. waktu tido aku masih waktu
mesia lagi. Dinner as early as 5 o'clock. Pukul 7 mlm je, 'lil Asha dah tanya dah bila nak
masuk tido.. dah malam dah ni.. aduss.. dia takleh tido kalau takde ummi.. sebab ummi ada
ubat tido dia... so ummi pun terpaksa lah menemankan si kecik ni tido. Almaklumlah, kalau
dah masuk dalam duvet, susah bebeno lah teman nak kuar ye... tido lah sekali. Masa mula2
dulu pukul 4 pagi dah terjaga. Sekarang oklah sikit. 6 pagi mesti dah bangun... walaupun kat
luar masih gelap... bangun, prepare some breakfast, browsing (kalau ada luck dapat campusnya
wifi), prepare Asha and myseld to school. 12 noon.. Then off we go.. Buat masa ni kitaorg
belum dapat lagi keter pujaan hati, so bas adalah pengangkutan utama kami. Dari rumah, pihak
uni ada menyediakan bas yang amik masa dalam 2 minit perjalanan dari rumah ke uni. Then dari uni, me & Asha will walk dalam lebih kurang 15 minit untuk ke sekolah dia.

Lepas hantar Asha, aku akan either merayau2 pegi kedai (kalau ada barang2 rumah yg dah abis)
or aku lepak kat library uni (as if aku lak yang belajar kat sini.. ahaks.. insyaAllah).
Lepak sampai la kul 2.30 ptg, pastu get ready nak amik Asha kat school. She finishes at
3.00. Usually me and Mr. I will walk together to fetch her from school. Tapi kenkadang aku
tumpang kak Maswa je gi hantar and amik Asha.. kalau ada rezeki jumpa dia la.. huhuh.. Lepas
amik Asha, apalagi.. pulanglah kami ke rumah mencari makanan. Wakaka...

Anyway.. life is not as sweet as some people thing when u r abroad. At the beginning,
keperitan akan terasa. Mungkin after a year, after sumer dah settle down, insyaAllah barulah
terasa kemanisannya. Tapi buat masa ini, suffer lah dulu ye.. All the suffering lah yang
akan membuat kita semua mature and appreciate apa yang kita ada.

Doakan kami berjaya di bumi yang asing ini ye... Ameen....

Lepas Kawin, Beranaklah!

2008-12-18T10:31:00.003Z

Ni perbualan anakku dengan neneknya 2-3 hari lepas.

Masa tengah menonton cerita Puteri Salju dekat TV tiba2..

A*sha: Uwan..uwan.. kakak tu nak kawin!
Uwan: Mana A*sha tau dia nak kawin?
A*sha: Kakak pakai baju cantik.. dia nak kawin lah tu...
Uwan: Oh ye ke...
A*sha: Lepas ni dia BERANAK lah tu!
Uwan: Hah! Mana A*sha tau?
A*sha: A*sha taulah!
Uwan: Sape cakap lepas kawin, beranak?
A*sha: A*sha lah!

Arghh.. kenapa anak aku pemikiran dia sampai ke situ ek? Banyak sangat tengok TV le ni.....

30 Days! The Countdown Begins

2008-12-16T16:09:00.003Z

Pejam celik, pejam celik, dah tinggal 30 hari je lagi.

Berdebar gak rasa sebab macam banyak benda tak settle lagi. The biggest hurdle is the visa. Haven't even submitted yet because have to wait from hubby's sponsor to release the ultimate letter. Hopefully semua tu boleh selesai secepat mungkin so that boleh proceed with application for visa. Kalau dah dapat letter dari sponsor pun ada lagi benda yg perlu dirisaukan which is funding untuk kami 2 beranak sbb sponsorship hanya untuk hubby. Me and Lil'P takde peruntukkan. So hopefully apa yg kami ada cukup kukuh untuk meyakinkan pihak HighComm yg semakin cerewet sekarang ini. Doakan kami ye...

Rabbi Yassir Walaa Tu'assir Wa Tammim Bil Khair
Oh Lord, make things easier for me and do not give hardhips; And make my end one of khair.

Are you?

2008-11-26T08:06:00.002Z

Have you watched them sleep?

2008-11-17T13:05:00.002Z

Cinta Batu Belah

2008-11-09T23:49:00.006Z

Cerita kegemaran anakku. Boleh ke tidak.. My 3 years old daughter is so into this TV3 series. She likes the theme song too, sang by Nubhan titled Ada Untukmu. What I noticed my Lil'Princess ni tak suka tengok kartun yang memang kita tau target audience dia budak kecil. Budak skrg tgh sibuk nak tgk Madagascar 2 tapi anak aku kalau tgk promo dia kat TV leh buat dek je. Kalau kartun, she only watches kartun yg kat Disney Channel tu cam Barney and Friends, Jojo Circus, PB, J and Otter, Little Eisteins and Mickey Club House. Yang dia suka tengok ialah cerita² yang so called untuk orang² dewasa ni. Kalau tengok, tak berkelip mata. Pastu position dia betul²depan TV tuh. Kalau dah tgk tuh, tak sah lah kalau tak tanya soalan, "Kenapa kakak tuh sedih?", "Kenapa dia mati?", banyaklah kenapa dia. Sampai ummi kadang malas nak jawab soalan never-ending-story tuh...

Ape² pun, kita layan lagu Nubhan ni ok...

Cinta Antara Kita

2008-10-20T08:52:00.001+01:00

Jom nyanyi lagu ni... by DUTA feat. BAIZURA KAHAR
OST for the Dunia Baru the Movie

[Duta:]
Sejak dari dulu
Ku menyintaimu
Kau tahu begitu namun kau berpura
Ku masih teringat kau peluk diriku
Yg telah membuat ku menyintai mu

Sudah berapa lama
Diriku ini
Tak bertemu mu
Mungkin ku harap jua
Kau merindu ku
Sebagaimanaku rinduimu

[Duta:]
Cinta antara kita
Tiada penghalangnya
Walau akhir usia
Ku menyinta dirimu
Ku hanya menunggu mu
Menyata kau cintaku
Ku kan berjanji
Menyintamu syg....

[Baizura Kahar:]
Setelah kau pergi jauh dari sisi
Tiada ku cinta selain dirimu
Ku ingin bersama dgnmu selamanya
Walaupun sehingga ke akhir nyawa
Mungkin kau tak mengerti
Maksud ku dulu pada dirimu
Kiniku kan menyinta dirimu itu sehingga ke akhir waktu

[Baizura Kahar:]
Cinta antara kita
Tiada penghalangnya
Walau akhir usia
Ku menyintai dirimu
Ku hanya menunggu mu
Menyata kau cintaku
Ku kan berjanji
Menyintamu syg....

[Duta:]
Sudah berapa lama
Diriku ini
Tak bertemu mu

[Baizura Kahar:]
Mungkin ku harap jua
Kau merindu ku
Sebagaimanaku rindumu

[Duta:]
Cinta antara kita
Tiada penghalangnya
Walau akhir usia
Ku menyinta dirimu

[Baizura Kahar:]
Hanya menunggu mu
Menyata kau cintaku
Ku kan berjanji
Menyintamu syg....

[Duta and Baizura Kahar:]
Cinta antara kita
Tiada penghalangnya
Walau akhir usia
Ku menyintai dirimu
Ku hanya menunggu mu
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Open house Hari Jumaat (10-10-2008)

2008-10-14T08:09:00.009+01:00

Last Friday, we went to the newly occupied house of my ex-colleague in SK. It was an open house cum house warming party. Since the host's husband is currently in *K to further his study and the wife aka the host, also will be joining him pretty soon, most of their belongings are still packed in the box. So we decided to do the party in a 'potluck' way.

The menu: Afzan's KFC, Kak Ju special fried vermicelli, Zai's bake pasta, Kak Ina pudding caramel, Sue's cheese cupcake, Dahlila's kuih raya, Umi's kerepek raya, Shahbe's fruits & Mimi's Ice cream. Best... yummy..........

My cheese cupcake.

Our next generation

What's wrong sayang ummi?

Everyone, look up…… not everybody follows order.

Kunjungan AidilFitri

2008-10-14T06:50:00.004+01:00

Weekend baru ni, rumah ku (read: rumah ibuku) dikunjungi oleh in-laws ku dan teman baik ku Ms. S & family. Tenkiu Paknjang N & Maknjang A, Pakteh K & fiancee Aunty Y, Maklang L, Makngah A & Pakngah S bersama anak2. Makanannya simple2 aja. Menu ari Sabtu was mee tomato & ari ahad was mee kapitan. Sape dtg ari ahad dapat la makan chilled lychee cheesecake. Tak sempat nk buat ari sabtu.. sowee ye tetamu ari sabtu. Tetamu ari ahad tuh siap tapau lagi cheesecake. huhuh.. Sape agaknya tu?? Ada plak kanak2 yg taknak balik malam Ahad tuh.. Kelakar sungguh la Dik La ni.... Abg F pun dah ala2 nak buat hal mlm tuh.. Semuanya kerana nak main color2. Nanti makngah beli lain ye kanak2.. kita main kat umah maktuk nanti yea...

p/s: Double thanks to pakteh yg sanggup hantar maklang and kakak kecohs balik soghombhan. Kalau tak naik commuter ler depa.

Recap: Before and After Eid ul-Fitr 2008

2008-10-06T06:35:00.014+01:00

Hmm.. Last update was 25/9, arini dah 14/10.. Lama gak la tak menjenguk blog sendiri. Asyik ngan blog orang lain thru Google Reader, pastu sibuk ngan FB je.. blog sendiri pun terbiar lah.. kesian...... So n3 ni kira merangkumi semua lah ye...

29/9/2008
(0530 lepas sahur) Cepat..cepat.. packing nak balik raya (argh.. i hate packing) AN.. bangun..bangun.. kita nak balik umah maktok ni. (terpisat2 lah anak ku bangun). Banyak aktiviti nak kena buat pagi ni before balik S******g. Gi bank dulu, nak cucuk duit, sekali tengok, one bank dah out of notes dlm machine, yg satu lagi beratur punyalah panjang. Luckily the bank that we went have plenty of ATM machines. Tak lah lama menunggu. Suddenly, kring..kring.. Hello, kat mana ni. Bila nak balik. Banyak kerja nak buat ni! My mother in-law dah call daa... (Me) Aik! Ari ni dah nak masak for raya ke? Esok kan ada satu hari lagi posa... (Hubby) Biasa lah.. bila lagi mak nak mintak tolong kita... Okay..Okay.. balik sekarang jugak!

Sampai rumah MIL, penunggu setia 1123 sedang menganyam(correct verb ke ni?) kelongsong ketupat palas. Jadi kami pun continue lah kerja2 memasak.. menu arini sambal goreng. Sambil memasak, sambil mengambil resepi. Tahun depan wajib masak sendiri. I wonder how... nak buat sambal goreng tu memerlukan tempe, tauhu, etc. Mana I nak cekau tempe ye kalau kat *K nanti. Harus ke ku buat tempe sendiri? Daddy, how ??? (He said, WAJIB!).

30/09/2008
Arini continue masak kuah kacang, kuah lodeh, rendang ayam, nasi impit and ketupat palas pulak. Resepi kuah kacang mak pun I dah salin. Maklang kata ummi dah pass buat kuah kacang. Ye ke?? That was under her supervision, maklang... Kalau mak tade nanti, wonder how it's goin to turn out. Boleh ke? Boleh..boleh..

Tahun ni ketupat-palas-air-tangan-paklong pasal dia yg. mesin kelapa, dia yg. perah. Hmm.. YUMMY!

Ketupat palas in the making

Buka puasa time, everybody was there except Makngah Amy's family yg pulang beraya ke Bri*u. Me, rasa sedey time bukak posa tu coz it's gonna be our last puasa with the family. It won't be the same next year. (Sigh).

01/10/2008 (1st Syawal)
Pagi raya, everybody ke masjid termasuk la anak dara ku. Sesudah solat, seperti biasa kami akan round the taman untuk ziarah para tuan guru. Ziarah kami selesai selepas dua buah rumah and straight away balik umah. Ayah pulak meneruskan ziarah ke rumah lain. Biasanya selepas ziarah ke rumah ustaz2 ni kami akan meneruskan upacara bermaaf-maafan di rumah. Tapi tahun ni ayah dah terziarah lebih rumah, jadi kami yang dah balik ke rumah ni, tunggu..punya tunggu..punya tunggu.. sampai ketiduran semua. Lebih kurang pukul 1pm barulah acara bermaaf2an bermula. Itupun in a hurry sebab ada pulak org nak datang beraya. Akhirnya, tahun ni, kami tak sempat nak ambil gambar raya beramai2. Sedey..sedey... Anyway, akan diusahakan Raya Haji nanti.

AN & ayahnya selepas sembahyang raya di Masjid Taman M****a

Ibu dan anak posing

The boyz & the galz of 1123

AN & Paksu

Penat menanti atok & maktok balik. Yang si kecik tu, eksyen je tuh.. Dia yg suh amik gambar kunun2nya dia pun tido cam ayah ngan pakcik2 dia.

Petangnya kami ke rumah Tok Muda di Sem*****h. Tok Muda ni (why panggil tok muda ek? tak sempat plak nak tanya ayah the history) dah 90 tahun 9 bulan. Wow! Alhamdulillah, he is still strong. His memory also still tip top cuma ada sedikit lupa la. He was complaining on how sometimes he forgot some of the zikr and how many rakaat he have prayed and how he has to start over again. Semoga Allah panjangkan lagi umur atok.

02/10/2008 (2nd Syawal)
Destinasi arini ialah Me*u, Su***g & Su***y. Arini tour area Sel****r. Dari pagi sampai lah ke malam kami berjalan. Kesian para driver kami yg terpaksa memandu. Keletihan.

AN & maktok

Just the three of us.

03/10/2008 (3rd Syawal)
Originally, we planned to go back to my granny's house in Pilahdelphia. Unfortunately, my grandmother dah pun pulang semula ke K****g mengikut makcik saya. Jadi siang tu, tiada aktiviti khusus kecuali memasak pasta bagi kami yg kebosanan memakan rendang dan ketupat.

Malamnya, kami ke rumah bakal biras (beras ke biras? heheheh) saya di P***i J*y*. Bestnya.. Makan lagi kami... Menu yummy di rumah Auntie Y**i (seperti yg. AN panggil) ialah mihun sup dan pecal. Best!! (Y***, thank u for the cheese cup cake recipe).

Sebelum berangkat ke rumah Aunty Y.

The so called twins pose together.

Smile…. Senyum Zafran yang tak tahan….

Leka mendengar cerita makcik R.

Bual bicara bakal besan.

Dah kenyang makan, sila duduk luar ye…

Now it's time for para ibu pulak makan.

Kanak2 sedang di brief cara utk bermain UNO.

Aunty Y sibuk melayan AN & AS.

Nak balik dah…. Sape nak duit raya salam atok…..

04/10/2008
Arini mak buat breakfast nasi lemak. Yummy! Best..best.. During breakfast, Pakteh break the news that he's going to bring forward his wedding date. Before we leaving for *K. Yeay! That means we're not going to miss the wedding of the year. We're gonna be part of it. We get to help our 'Pak Abu' aka the talented-tangan-seni Maklang. If not, kami kena tengok dari jauh je la. Happy for it. Cuma Pakteh la kena kerja keras cari duit nak kawen sebab the date is way-way cepat than the original. Boleh ka Pakteh??? (Nanti sila update dengan segera warna tema apa ye.. senang makcik nak gi beli kain, nak tempah baju).

Around 12 noon kami dah bersiap2 nak pulang ke KL. Tapi sebelum tu, program ziarah diteruskan. Destinasi: Ser****n J*y* dan K****g.

Ada satu rumah yang saya tak berkesempatan nak pergi sebelum kami balik ke KL. Rumah ni ada buat renovation sikit baru2 ni. Pastu ada langsir baru, cabinet baru. Apa lagi yg baru? Harus diserbu bila kami balik semula ke S******g nanti. Masak special ye Makngah.........

Berbuka Bersama Ms. S

2008-09-24T23:26:00.005+01:00

Semalam, Alhamdulillah saya telah berkesempatan untuk berbuka bersama teman baik saya Ms. S di rumahnya di Shah Alam. Sudah agak lama saya tidak berjumpa dengan Ms. S dan keluarga kerana masing2 sibuk dengan tugasan masing2. Ms. S kini sedang berhempas pulas untuk menyiapkan tesis PhD nya.

Sebenarnya tujuan saya ke rumah Ms. S adalah untuk menyerahkan baju raya anaknya MM yang saya beli sempena Eid nanti. Tiada cadangan untuk berbuka bersama. Tetapi bila dah berjumpa tu, terlalu banyak cerita yang nak dikongsi bersama. Kami kalau berjumpa, memang tak habis2 bercerita. Cerita suka duka kami. Memang rindu saya dengan dia dan MM yang comel itu. Nanti bila saya dah ke U***** ******M, Januari nanti, bertambahlah rindu saya dengan mereka.

Checking MM's tooth yang tumbuh senget.

"Peace...." MM tengah tengok AN macamana nak buat aksi peace.

"Ah.. tak pandailah... Buat ala-ala peace pun jadilah..."

New Addition

2008-09-19T09:46:00.005+01:00

Presenting my new niece, Arisha Ardina. The name is still tentative. Why? Coz, the sista has already start calling her new baby sista with that name but the mother is still finding for a suitable name. Hmm.. lucky JPN gave us ample time to register the baby.

Date of Birth: 18/09/2008 (Yeay.. same month with ummi!)
Time: 1746
Venue: Ampang Puteri Specialist Hospital

Alhamdulillah, mama and baby is good health.

Sleeping.

Still sleeping.

With Uwan.

Baby identification.

The sista yang tak keruan tengok adik.

Mummy, kakak besar & adik kecik.

Update: Baby suppose to be discharged today but because she's having a fever so still have to stay in the hospital for hopefully one more day.

Farewell Kak Ju

2008-09-16T02:51:00.001+01:00

Date: 28/08/2008
Venue: Pizza San Francisco, BBBangi
Time: 13:00

Kak Ju: Hello UKM... Bye-bye MMU...
Us: Sob..Sob..

Adengan membuka hadiah secara paksa.

Kawan2 dan anak2 yg. hadir.

Yummy food.

US!

Thank you, Yang...

2008-09-15T07:32:00.002+01:00

I love it.. I love it.. I love it..

Thank you dear..

New Look

2008-09-12T05:50:00.002+01:00

This is just to commemorate the day I change the blog template.

Oh dear Savvy & Wallet..

2008-09-11T00:11:00.000+01:00

What a day to start a lovely day today.

We were ready for work quite early today. Suddenly, we saw something happened to our dear Savvy.

Can you see anything? Tak nampak takpe.. Let me show you.....

Gone baby gone. We are lucky because only one tyre was missing. With one tyre gone, definitely have to buy a new tyre plus a new ream.

Anyway, I'm taking it in a good way. Hope more good things will come due to this one tyre. InsyaAllah...

Happy Birthday to Me!

2008-09-10T09:29:00.000+01:00

Happy birthday to me,
Happy birthday to me,
Happy birthday to me-e-e-e-e-e,
Happy birthday to me.....................

Terima kasih Ya Allah atas segala kurniaan Mu...
Terima kasih kerana Kau masih lagi memberi ku peluang untuk menghirup udara Mu ini...
Semoga Kau kekalkan kekuatan dan kesihatan yang telah Kau kurniakan ini dan tetapkan hati hamba Mu ini supaya sentiasa berada dalam petunjuk Mu..
Janganlah Kau tarik nikmat iman dan hidayah yang telah Kau kurniakan kepada kami ya Rabb... ...ameen....

Upin and Ipin

2008-09-08T04:17:00.000+01:00

Upin and Ipin is the animation series about fasting experience of two 5-year-old twins, aired in TV9 every time during Ramadhan. It has been my 'Lil P favorites. I can say that almost everyday she watches the last year's series in Daddy's laptop. I think she has memorised most of the dialogue in the firtst season series.

For Ramadhan 2008 they are back with title "Upin & Ipin Setahun Kemudian". In the first season these 2 twins were telling their first experience fasting for the first time in the month of Ramadhan. It is being told from their perspective in such a way that is simple, comical and hilarious. Their grandmother, Opah and elder sister Ros, will give them advice and guidance as the story goes on. The good values will be easily understood by the children and will give a lasting impression upon them, as it is interwind into the plots and subtle manner. Although the series is tailored during the fasting month, they are also suitable to be shown all year round as it has educational and moral values for children.

This year they are back and now they are already in kindergaten. Upin & Ipin are back in the new Ramadhan series with more fun and exciting experience in learning how to fast. Meet their new friends Mail-the mischievous one, Jarjit a young boy with a huge voice who always gets left out, and not to forget, their kindergarten teacher Miss Jasmin. Both of them were exhilarated to fast the whole month again this year. This time Upin and Ipin learn more about the real meaning of Ramadhan and Syawal, giving and sharing with others and learn to appreciate with what they had. Moral values are instilled in the series but in an entertaining way, teaching children to be grateful and cherish the holy month.

You can watch the episodes from YouTube if you want. Enjoy!

KFC Recipes

2008-09-03T01:27:00.000+01:00

Got this from someone's blog.

Authentic KFC Recipes - Upload a Document to Scribd

Iklan Merdeka Petronas 2008

2008-08-21T04:30:00.000+01:00

Hari Merdeka akan tiba tak lama lagi..

Selalunya.. iklan Petronas lah yang ditunggu-tunggu..

Iklan tahun ini, sempena hari kemerdekaan yang ke-51...

...terimalah iklan comel ini, ditambah pula dengan pelakon2 iklan yang comel itu....

.. Apakah moral disebalik iklan ini?

1) Berfikir secara kreatif dan inovatif. Kalau tak dapat jala, kelambu buruk pun boleh juga. Tak semestinya sesuatu yang buruk/lama tak boleh digunakan lagi. Mungkin kegunaan utamanya sebagai pelindung daripada nyamuk tidak boleh digunakan lagi, tapi kita boleh gunakan kelambu itu untuk tujuan lain pula. Mungkin ianya boleh menjana hasil yang lebih lagi dari kegunaan asalnya.

2) Tabah & Sabar. Selalunya hasil dari kesabaran itu kita beroleh sesuatu yang di luar jangkaan kita. Mungkin kehidupan kita tidak begitu baik sekarang, tetapi berkat kesabaran kita berupaya mendapat sesuatu yang lebih bagus lagi. Sabar itu separuh daripada iman. Sesuatu yang berlaku itu ada rahmat disebaliknya.

3) Usaha & Kerja keras. Sesuatu yang baik itu tidak akan datang bergolek begitu sahaja. Kita mestilah berusaha untuk mencapainya. Mungkin ada yang akan berkata "Kita tidak perlu berkerja sekuat itu. Kita hanya perlu pandai untuk mengagihkan tugasan kita pada yang lain". Tapi rasanya tahap kepuasan itu tidak akan sama jika ianya bukan hasil titik peluh kita sendiri.

4) Pengorbanan. Apa sahaja yang kita lakukan perlu ada sedikit pengorbanan. IKHLAS. Mulakan setiap pengorbanan itu dengan niat yang ikhlas tentu kita tidak akan sedikit pun terasa tentang pengorbanan kita itu.

...51 bukanlah angka keramat dan ia juga bukan satu angka yang perlu disia-siakan.

...membangunkan sesuatu itu bukanlah mudah, tetapi untuk merobohkannya, ianya boleh berlaku sekelip mata sahaja.

Do I Look Like Ummi or Ayah?

2008-08-15T10:01:00.000+01:00

MyHeritage: Look-alike Meter - Family reunion - Genology

Ahad Petang yang Sepi

2008-08-10T09:59:00.000+01:00

Wakaka... kenapa sepi? Boring lah... My other half takde... Dah 4 days me home alone with my AN the not-so-little-baby-anymore-but-act-like one. Ayah is out of town for his kursus kenegaraan. Petang2 ahad ni, lazying around in the house without daddy is so tak best. Dalam tak best tu, aktiviti minggu ni penuh gak. Rasa cam dah kering dah poket ni. Dah besor rasanya lubang poket dek aktiviti yang cam never ending story ni.

Tengahari tadi aktiviti membawa anak2 yang ketiadaan bapa mereka ke T***o A****g untuk main playground. My sis pun bujang this week (her hubby is in Beijing for the Olympic opening).

Yesterday, ada some relative's kenduri kawen. So all the mak dara's without the bapak-bapak went to the kenduri. Lots of ppl nampaknya melangsungkan perkahwinan mereka that day and most of them took the chance to solemnised their marriage on 080808. *sigh* What's in the dates?.

Can't wait for daddy to come home..

Removed

2008-08-05T03:36:00.000+01:00

The moment of truth has come.

It has been removed this afternoon.

So now let just wait for the outcome. (",) InsyaAllah...

Ummi, I'm not well..

2008-07-25T05:48:00.000+01:00

Current state: Ummi the 'sleepy head'.

Duration:

sleepless nights.

Reason: Lil'Princess is down with fever, cough & flu. She's been rejecting any kind of food, drink (except her Solivite), formula & medicines (which make things worst).

The best part is I still have to go to work early because they are waiting in the class.

Eating Out in Bukhara KLCC

2008-07-01T07:29:00.000+01:00

We haven't had a chance to celebrate our anniversary last Thursday.

Yesterday, since daddy is quite free after work, we headed to Bukhara in KLCC for our anniversary celebration. Before decided on Bukhara we went to few places. There is another middle east restaurant in KLCC called Al-Marjan. But because my 'lil princess would like to eat noodles so we decided on Bukhara.

We ordered Shish Kebab, Plain Beryani, Lamb Meat Ball Spaghetti and Arabic Mint Tea.

Food was not so bad (although slightly on the salty side for our Asian tongue . I think the salt intake for middle east people is quite high) but I preferred Tarbush in Sunway Pyramid (in terms of the ambiance and food presentation). I think Bukhara and Tarbush are under the same management.

Birthday Celebration

2008-06-29T06:24:00.000+01:00

Dari KL kami ke Senawang,
Sempena meraikan hari lahir Aisyah, Alia dan Maklang,
Maaflah Makngah kami hanya datang makan,
Akitiviti hari Sabtu mengganggu tugasan yang disediakan.

Ayam, sotong, kerang dan udang,

Semuanya telah sedia dipanggang,
Mushroom soup, garlic bread siap dihidang,
Tak lupa dadih buatan maklang.

Lapan beradik berkumpul bersama,
Cuma tak dapat bergambar sekali,
Terima kasih makngah si tuan rumah,
Mudah-mudahan rezeki bertambah lagi.

…Wakakaka.. kenapa aku berpantun ni??

Disney Beauty & the Beast

2008-06-29T06:00:00.000+01:00

Went to this show last Saturday in KL Convention Centre with my sister along with our daughter. Before that we went to a wedding in Shah Alam.

From Keramat, we went to my sis place in Damansara to get the ticket cos takut I lambat, then off to Shah Alam to attend the wedding, stop in Sunway to fetch my bro-in-laws, rush to KL Convention Centre for the show.

It was supposed to start at 3.00pm but we had to wait for 1 hour for it to start. The audiences in the full hall already restless. They were people clapping and shouting "We want Beast, We want Beauty, Show me Beast, Show me Beauty"

At 4.05 then only the show started.

At 5.30pm, it suddenly ended. I thought what happen. Rupanya ada 20 mins break. Dahlah start lambat. Ada break pulak.

Budak2 dah sibuk ajak balik. Tried to bribe them ajak makan but tak jalan..

Akhirnya kami balik tanpa dapat tengok ending of the show. Nasib baik ticket free.

6.30pm, daddy came to fetch us to go back to Senawang. Malam ni ada makan2 in Makngah's place.

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Sebenarnya, aku dah post about this earlier tapi oleh kerana kesilapan dan kepandaian sendiri, ianya telah di overwrite. &%@$'!.

Happy 4th Anniversary

2008-06-27T05:41:00.000+01:00

To my dear hubby, Happy 4^th wedding anniversary.

Thank you to the Almighty for another blessed year.

Another year to create precious memories together.
Another year to discover new things to enjoy about each other.
Another year to build a life rich in love and laughter.
Another year to strengthen a marriage that defines "forever."

Happy Anniversary!

Andai Ku Tahu

2008-06-26T06:37:00.001+01:00

Daddy loves this song by Ungu. He said "It's very ketuhanan".

I love it as well!

Andai ku tahu….
Kapan tiba ajalku…
Ku akan memohon tuhan tolong panjangkan umurku…

Andai ku tahu…
Kapan tiba masaku…
Ku akan memohon tuhan jangan kau ambil nyawaku…
Aku takut akan semua dosa dosaku…
Aku takut dosa yg terus membayangiku…

Andai ku tahu…
Malaikatmu kan menjemputku…
Izinkan aku mengucap kata taubat padamu…
Aku takut akan semua dosa dosaku…
Aku takut dosa yg terus membayangiku…

Ampuni aku dari segala dosa dosaku…
Ampuni aku menangis ku bertaubat padamu…
Aku manusia yang takut neraka…
Namun aku juga tak pantas disurga…

Andai ku tahu….
Kapan tiba ajalku…
Izinkan aku mengucap kata taubat padamu…
Aku takut akan semua dosa dosaku…
Aku takut dosa yg terus membayangiku…
Ampuni aku dari segala dosa dosaku…
Ampuni aku menangis ku bertaubat padamu…

Why?

2008-06-19T04:56:00.001+01:00

How to answer these two questions?

Few days back. "Umi… kenapa kakak tu hisap rokok?"

And yesterday. "Kenapa kakak yang pakai baju green tu tak pakai tudung?"

Nowadays, I have to find the way to answer intelligently (without confusing her which might kill her curiosity) to the questions.

One Two Buckle My Shoe…

2008-06-19T04:31:00.001+01:00

I bet we have heard this nursery rhyme before. This was what A'sha and mommy was singing before bed last night.

One, two, buckle my shoe;

Three, four, shut the door;

Five, six, pick up sticks;

Seven, eight, lay them straight;

Nine, ten, a big fat hen.

Then what?

The counting goes on and on from my baby's lips.

Asha: "11..12..13..14..15..16..17..18..19..20.."

I thought that was it.

She continues counting.

"..21..22..23..24..25..26..27..28..29..thirteen.."

Mommy: "thirty.."

Asha: "ok.. Thirty..31..32..33..34..35..36..37..38..39..fourteen"

Mommy: "FOURTY"

The counting goes on until number Fifty.

Wow! My 3-year-old girl could count until 50? With clear, correct pronunciation and sequence!

How I underestimated her all this while. I was thinking she could only count up until 20. And that also with not a correct sequence or she may forget some numbers in between.

But NO! Mommy was wrong!

"Sorry baby for not putting my 100% trust in your capabilities."

LESSONS LEARNED

Alternatives to "No!"

2008-06-18T05:23:00.001+01:00

What to expect at this age

Maybe your preschooler ignores the word "no," or maybe you'd just like to take a more positive approach to disciplining her. Luckily, you have plenty of alternatives to this overused command — and for good reason. "Children often begin to tune it out, and you may find that it takes ten no's to get your child to respond," says Roni Leiderman, associate dean of the Family Center at Nova Southeastern University in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida. Whether you're trying to keep your preschooler out of trouble or teach her right from wrong, try a better, more effective approach than the "n" word.

What to do

Rephrase. Put a positive spin on your request, and your preschooler is more likely to respond in kind. Instead of saying no, clearly state what she can do instead. Rather than barking, "No! Don't throw the ball in the living room," for instance, try "Let's go outside to play ball." If she's in the middle of an art project and is getting glue all over the floor, help her put newspaper down under her work. This gives her something to do rather than something to stop doing. When you have to act quickly to keep her safe, substitute a more direct warning, such as "Stop!" "Danger!" or "Hot!"

Offer options. Your preschooler wants to feel independent and in control. So rather than issuing a flat-out denial when she begs for a piece of candy before lunch, offer her a choice between halved grapes and apple slices. Or let her pick which kind of candy she'd like to eat — after lunch. If she typically insists on wearing an out-of-the-question outfit (like a bathing suit in December), give her two acceptable outfits to choose between each morning. Though she may not be thrilled with the choices you've offered her, she will eventually learn to accept them.

Drive her to distraction. Even a preschooler can be easily distracted from trouble. When a delicate figurine catches her eye in the department store, quickly point out how the light reflects in a mirror across the aisle, or divert her with a question — "What should we have for lunch?" — a toy, or a little snack (yet another reason to keep a well-stocked bag when you're out and about with your child!). Meanwhile, move away from temptation. Older preschoolers are easier than younger children to shop with, and more receptive to up-front distraction, too: "We can't play with that china doll, but we can try out the wind-up toys over here."

Avoid the issue. Whenever you can, keep your preschooler out of situations where you'll have to say no, and opt instead for safe environments that encourage her sense of adventure and curiosity. Your home should still be conscientiously childproofed, with dangerous and valuable items kept out of her reach. And choose places where she's free to roam — the playground or your sister's big backyard, for instance, over the housewares store or Great-Grandma Jenny's antique-filled home. You can't isolate your child from all situations where you'll have to say no, of course, but life will be easier for both of you — and you'll be able to say yes more often — if you limit them.

Keep in mind, though, that many preschoolers enjoy shopping and will behave quite well — if you take a few precautions. Plan shopping trips for times when your child is well rested, and don't overdo it — an hour or two at the mall is plenty.

Ignore minor infractions. Life presents plenty of meaningful opportunities to teach your child discipline. Don't go looking for extras. If she's splashing in a puddle and you're on your way home anyway, why not let her? If she wants to wear her Halloween costume to bed, what's the harm? Remember this parenting mantra: Choose your battles. Indulge her sense of adventure, fun, and exploration whenever you can. If she's safe and you don't have to say no, let it slide.

Say it like you mean it. Of course, when her behavior does matter, and alternatives to no just won't cut it, don't waffle. Say it firmly (but calmly), with conviction and a poker face — "No! Don't pull the cat's tail." An amused "No, no, sweetie" sends your preschooler mixed messages and certainly won't discourage her. When she responds, give her a smile or a hug and follow up with something affirmative — "Yes! What a good listener you are!"

Happy Father's Day

2008-06-16T06:11:00.000+01:00

To all daddy's out there, especially my dear hubby, my father, my father in law and all my in-laws.

Dance With My Father

by Luther Van Dross

Back when I was a child, before life removed all the innocence

My father would lift me high and dance with my mother and me and then

Spin me around ‘til I fell asleep

Then up the stairs he would carry me

And I knew for sure I was loved

If I could get another chance, another walk, another dance with him

I’d play a song that would never, ever end

How I’d love, love, love

To dance with my father again

When I and my mother would disagree

To get my way, I would run from her to him

He’d make me laugh just to comfort me

Then finally make me do just what my mama said

Later that night when I was asleep

He left a dollar under my sheet

Never dreamed that he would be gone from me

If I could steal one final glance, one final step, one final dance with him

I’d play a song that would never, ever end

‘Cause I’d love, love, love

To dance with my father again

Sometimes I’d listen outside her door

And I’d hear how my mother cried for him

I pray for her even more than me

I know I’m praying for much too much

But could you send back the only man she loved

I know you don’t do it usually

But dear Lord she’s dying

To dance with my father again

Every night I fall asleep and this is all I ever dream

As we know, behind every great man there is a great woman, which is our beloved mom.

Happy Parent's Day!

When to write?

2008-06-10T07:01:00.001+01:00

Where can I get the motivation to write?

I'm just plain lazy to update my blog.

*sigh*

Asha is a smart girl

2008-05-12T22:18:00.000+01:00

My daughter sometimes (ke always.. heheh) masuk bakul angkat sendiri.

Yesterday, after I pick her up from school, she said to me "Asha is a very smart girl".

I asked her "Who told you that? Kak Nor or Ibu Ros?" Kak Nor and Ibu Ros are her school teacher.

"No lah. Asha lah". Dia sendiri yang cakap dia smart. Mana tak masuk bakul angkat sendiri.

"But baby, YOU ARE SMART!"

Happy Mother's Day

2008-05-12T13:50:00.000+01:00

It was Mother's Day last Sunday (11/05/08). Happy Mother's Day to all mommies in the world.

This year, we've got to celebrate Mother's Day with our dear granny. So it was 4 generations of celebration.

Happy Birthday Sayang Ummi!

2008-04-18T04:13:00.000+01:00

For AN, on Her Birthday

It's your birthday, but we got the gift...
a gentle, sweet, beautiful daughter
who is always a pleasure to be with.

You glow with sensitivity and compassion
generated from the depths
of your warm heart and and kind soul.

Anyone who spends time with you
is privileged to know
such an extraordinary person.

You are a great joy in our lives.
We love you and cherish you and treasure you
and wish that every one of your birthdays
will be the happiest yet.

Disney On Ice 2008

2008-04-08T01:27:00.000+01:00

Disney On Ice presents Mickey's Amazing Journey takes audiences on an action-packed tour of the imagination to four exciting destinations filled with favorite Disney friends. Straight from their seats, guests will be transported to the enchanting worlds of Disney's Lilo & Stitch, The Little Mermaid, 101 Dalmatians, Lion King and Peter Pan. The arena will be filled with music, magic, and best of all, Mickey and Minnie acting as tour guides for a trip packed with excitement and surprises.Each scene brings the story to an unusual and inviting new location, including a dreamy London cityscape and a colorful tropical island. Audiences will experience the madcap mischief of Peter Pan's Lost Boys, an upbeat hula with Lilo and friends, including, of course, the irrepressible Stitch, and a reggae-spiced romp led by Sebastian of Disney's The Little Mermaid.

This was where we were last Saturday. At first I was a bit skeptical to bring my lil princess because she's a bit paranoid whenever she sees a clown or any mascot though they are offering balloon or sweets. When we reached Stadium Putra, she already sensed something and hold on to me tightly. But once we enter the stadium and she saw her Mickey and Minnie when the show starts, then only she started clapping hands enjoying the first hour of the show. For the last hour she started to go back and forth from my seat to hers. Above all we enjoyed the show and the bonding time together.

Last Week

2008-04-04T09:42:00.000+01:00

That was what happened to me and my friend last Friday (28/3/08) afternoon.

Alhamdulillah, nobody was hurt during the accident although the other car's driver kept on asking us how it happened while claiming he cannot remember anything. Duh!

"You talak belenti dekat galisan putih, lagi boleh tanya macamana boleh berlaku"

Grrrrrrrr....

Boikot ke Tak?

2008-04-04T07:48:00.000+01:00

Sekarang ni tengah hangat diperkatakan tentang filem pendek dari Belanda, Fitna yang dikatakan memperlekehkan Islam dengan mengaitkan surah-surah di dalam Quran dengan keganasan.

Pelbagai reaksi yang didapati dari pelbagai pihak.

Di dada akhbar, rakyat Malaysia diseru untuk memboikot dari membeli barangan jenama Belanda.

Ada juga yang tidak bersetuju dengan laungan boikot ini seperti saudara ini http://saifulislam.com/?p=1678#more-1678.

Hari ini juga, MMU telah menganjurkan satu majlis ilmu di mana penceramahnya ialah Ust. Wan Sohor Bani Leman. Tajuk ceramahnya adalah "Budaya Kerja Rasulullah Sebagai Ikutan". Di akhir ceramah, ustaz telah menyeru kepada semua untuk memboikot barangan Belanda ini. Kata ustaz, inilah masanya kita nak menunjukkan rasa kasih dan sayang kita kepada Rasulullah. Cerita ustaz, pernah suatu ketika Nabi bertanya kepada para sahabat siapakah yang pelik dan paling kuat imannya di muka bumi ini. Para sahabat menjawab "Malaikat". Nabi kata, "Bukan". Para sahabat menjawab lagi, "Kalau begitu, kamilah". Nabi kata bukan. "Tiada yang pelik pada kamu dan masakan kamu tidak beiman sedangkan aku ada di depan kamu." "Habis siapa?", tanya para sahabat. Jawab nabi, "Mereka yang beriman pada Allah selepas ketiadaan aku dan kamu(para sahabat). Kerana mereka tetap percaya pada Allah dan tetap membaca dan mempraktikkan apa yang terkandung di dalam Quran walaupun aku dan kamu tiada lagi". Tambah ustaz, bila kita ditanya di padang masyar nanti, apakah yang kita lakukan bila ada orang menghina Islam. Apakah yang akan kita jawab?

Boikot atau tidak, terpulanglah. Tapi rasanya tidak rugi jika tidak membeli barangan mereka. Tentu ada alternatifnya.

PRODUK DARI BELANDA/DUTCH

1. Dutch Lady - Susu
2. Ferrero Roche - Coklat
3. Wall’s - Ais Krim
4. Ing -Insurans
5. Planta -Magerin
6. Lady’s Choice -Magerin
7. Lipton -Teh
8. Shell -Minyak
9. Knorr -Perisa Makanan
10. Dove -Mandian
11. Sunlight -Magerin/Pencuci Pinggan
12. Radiant -Deodoran
13. Rexona -Deodoran
14. Ponds -Produk Kecantikan
15. Kieldsens -Coklat
16. Slimfast -Produk Pelangsing
17. Lego -Kismis
18. Philips -Barangan Elektrik
19. Duyvis -Makanan Ringan
20. Gouda -Keju
21. Robin -Pencuci Lantai/Pakaian
22. Ariel -Pencuci Lantai/Pakaian
23. Omo -Pencuci Lantai/Pakaian
24. Labello -Lip Balm
25. Pickwick -Teh
26. Venz -Mentega Coklat
27. Kinder Bueno -Coklat
28. Unilever -Syarikat
29. Dumex -Susu Tepung
30. Nutricia -Susu Bayi
31. Sunsilk -Shampoo
32. Fair & Lovely -Produk Kecantikan
33. Lux -Mandian
34. Vaseline -Lip Balm
35. Cif -Pencuci Lantai
36. Surf -Pencuci Kain
37. Wishbone -Pencuci Kain
38. Doriana - Keju Krim
39. Bertolli -Minyak Masak
40. Clear -Shampoo
41. Breeze -Pencuci Kain
42. Sun -Pencuci Kain

New port to play

2008-04-01T17:00:00.000+01:00

Atok S has been working hard last weekend by arranging all the batu for the cucu-cucu and anak-anak to lepak. My SIL has been blogging about it here.

Poor atok. Doing it all alone. Going by 100 batu everyday (out of 300).

So it has become a place for the cucu to play masak-masak. I regreted for cancelling the idea of buying a playhouse for the kanak-kanak.

When I said "Menyesal lah makngah tak beli rumah tu ek kakak!"

and she answered "Hah, tu lah... kenapa makngah pegi letak balik rumah tu?"

Amboi-amboi-amboi...... pandai nye!

The lil' rascals kurang sorang.

Oooo main pasir yea................

My baby's cheeky smile. Dah macam tarzan anak aku ni.

Lagu Baru Asha

2008-03-21T06:11:00.000Z

Lagu yang skrg tgh hot dinyanyikan oleh cik AN kita ni ada dua. Satu lagu 'Gorila' dan satu lagi lagu pasal Jari.

Gorila
Dong dong ge dong
Gorila beli buah pisang
Satu biji sepuluh sen
Kopek kulit, kopek kulit
Aikk!
Gorila terus nangis

Jari
Ini ibu jari,
Basuh baju,
Shap-shap-shap

Ini jari ayah,
Pergi kerja,
Tong-tong-tong

Ini jari kakak,
Sapu sampah,
Sap-sap-sap.

Ini jari adik,
Minum susu,
chap-chap-chap.

Happy Birthday Daddy!

2008-03-13T21:30:00.000Z

Your birthday marks another year together;

Such happy times, I couldn’t ask for more,

Spending precious minutes, hours and days

With you, my love, whom I cherish and adore.

We’ve shared so much, we two, in love and friendship;

Each year our bond just seems to grow and grow.

I always want to be right next to you;

To touch and kiss you means more than you can know.

You’re always there for me with a loving smile;

I’m never happier than when I know you’re near.

I thought my love for you could not grow stronger;

And yet I love you even more this year.

To my darling, hope these years ahead will bring you joy, health, wealth and prosper in what ever you do.

credit: poemsource.com

Sensei's Turn to Go

2008-03-08T05:00:00.000Z

When Shichida class finished this afternoon, I intented to tell sensei Sien Yee that my baby is going to be absent for next term's class due to mommy's study commitment. But it turn out that sensei is also leaving next term. What! Oh no! At first I was a bit worried that when Asha will be returning to the class in July, she won't be getting the same sensei anymore. But now she WILL be getting a new sensei.

After 1 year and 3 months with sensei Sien Yee, Asha and me have been quite comfortable with her. She has taught and treated my daughter and the rest in the class with great patience. She is so lovely and so sweet. She is creative too. Sometimes I even feel that my Asha whom she called Nabeeha was treated extra special by her. We will definitely miss her.

Dear sensei Sien Yee. Thank you for your kindness, your patience and the love that you have showered to Nabeeha and her friends. Wish you all the best in your future endeavour.

Asha's First Movie Outing

2008-03-02T22:53:00.000Z

This is the first time Asha went for movie outing and also for ummi and ayah after 4 years of marriage. Huhuh. Luckily Heitech Staff Club organised this outing so the whole cinema was booked for the staff and families. If not I think we would still wait for few years more to go for movie with Asha. What movie we were watching? It was Dunia Baru The Movie. Asha was following the series when it was aired in the tele so she basically know the casts in the series especially her 'Abang Adif' played by Pierre Andre.

When we first entered the cinema she's a bit scared coz they've already switch off the lights and the sound system was quite loud especially for small kids. Once we settled down in our seats with large popcorns to accompany us during the screening, she's also quite relax sitting on my laps. We were just worried she wants to urinate during the show so we kept on asking her whether she wants to go shee-shee or not. But luckily she did not until the show's over. Overall it was an enjoyable movie to watch.

So Asha darling, after this we can go for another movie outing...

Bubye Ibu Sal...

2008-02-20T18:28:00.000Z

Uhuk..uhuk..uhuk..... Uwaaaa... Ummi yang lebih2 ni sebenarnya.... :D

Semalam, Ummi ada mintak dengan ibu Sal lagu yang Asha selalu suruh ummi nyanyi tapi ummi tak tau dan tak pernah dengar lagu tu. Lagu pasal gajah. Ibu Sal adalah pengasuh/cikgu di taska Asha. Pagi ni, bila hantar my baby ke taska, ibu Sal yang ambil si kecil tu.. Macam biasa lah... Tapi this morning, ibu Sal cakap yang bulan ni adalah bulan terakhir dia bekerja di situ. Selepas ni dia akan berpindah ke Johor. Dia dah salinkan lagu yang ummi mintak semalam dalam satu buku tulis. Buku itu dihadiahkan untuk Asha. Pesan ibu Sal pada Asha dalam buku itu "Ingat ibu Sal selalu.."

Huhu.. ummi yang emo terlebih. Dalam kereta, rasa macam nak menangis dah. Rasa sebak je. Heheh. Mesti ayah tak perasan kan? Apasal ntah ummi ni...

Sebelum ni, ummi dan ayah pernah berbincang untuk menghantar Asha ke taska yang lebih dekat dengan tempat kami bekerja. Jadi kalau ada di antara kami yang kena balik agak lewat (lewat pun maksimum 7 malam) tidaklah kami perlu membayar OT dan meninggalkan Asha di taska. Maklumlah tempat kerja kami agak jauh dari rumah dan taska. Oleh kerana mengenangkan ibu Sal yang menjaga Asha dengan baik dan Asha pun gembira bila berada di taska, ummi rasa takpe lah kalau kami kena travel dari Cyberjaya ke Keramat pun. Tapi sekarang mungkin sudah tiba masanya kami memikirkan semula cadangan untuk berpindah itu.

Terima kasih ibu Sal kerana menjaga anak kami dengan penuh kasih sayang. Jasamu tak akan kami lupakan. Semoga ibu Sal gembira di tempat yang baru. Tahniah juga kerana bakal mendapat cahayamata yang baru. Semoga Allah memurahkan rezeki dan dipanjangkan umur ibu Sal sekeluarga. Harap kita dapat berjumpa lagi. Pesan ummi pada ibu.. "Ingat Asha selalu..". Huhuh.....

Inilah lagu Gajah yang dinyanyikan di taska.

Gajah hidung panjang

Badan hitam besar

Kaki macam tiang

Dua telinga lebar

Telinga macam kipas

Jalan bongkok-bongkok

Gajah tidak malas

Buat tolak... pokok.

American Idol Season 7: David Archuleta

2008-02-18T04:56:00.000Z

Awesome!

Asha Dah Berjaya!

2008-02-16T19:00:00.000Z

What was my girl shouting about? What has she accomplished???

Rupa2nya dia dah berjaya poo-poo dalam potty train dia......

So now she's diaper-free.... Save duit ummi & ayah sikit.....

"Ayah....... Asha dah berjaya!", she proudly said (practically shouting) to her daddy.

..am still awake..

2008-02-13T10:58:00.000Z

Jam menunjukkan pukul 1.44 pagi and I am still awake. What am I doin in this wee hour when hubby and baby is in their dreamland. I was supposed to start my revision on IBM DB2 certification exams hours ago but until now all the notes are still in the bag. Mission not acomplish.

What is accomplished is *wink* bloghopping.

I've been in front of this laptop and going from one blog to another. And now back to my own blog. wishing to write something but i guess otak dah tepu. Dunno what to write but still i want to write. Apa aku tulis ni. Macam merapu je.

Feel like writing about our activities during the CNY break. We had a long weekend. But malas la plak nak write a long story-morry. So lets summarize je lah. Pixes will update later.

Thursday (7-Feb-08)
At first we planned to balik kg Pilahdelphia (huhuh) early morning like that lah. But suddenly got some berita kematian of one of the jiran here so we decided to pay a visit first then only we go back. Tup-tap-tup-tap tengok everything settled around 3pm like that. So we went back home first, relax dulu. Relax punya relax sekali dah pukul 6pm. Last-last gerak balik kg after maghrib prayer. Itu pun my grandma dah call 2-3 times tanya kat mana. Sampai KP around 10pm. Had our late dinner. Tido..

Friday (8-Feb-08)
Pagi sampai la ke petang, we've been lazying around. Around 6pm then only we travel back to MIL house. Sampai2 MIL told us that my SIL planned to go to Melaka tomorrow. That sounds good coz before the break starts hubby has been asking, bugging, begging me to go somewhere for the long holidays. He specifically wants to go to Sungai Klah (a water theme park) nun jauh kat Sungkai, Perak sana. I was a bit reluctant and giving 101 excuses. Jauh tu Yang... Next time okay!

My BIL plak went to Cameron Highland. So me and SIL anxiously waiting for Pakteh to come home with all the sayur-sayuran and buah-buahan. Tunggu punya tunggu, nearly 12am baru my BIL sampai rumah. By that time SIL pun dah balik rumah dia. Anyhow, Pakteh brought home loads of veges, strawberries and tea (all sort of perisa ada). Budak2 dapat baju from Cameron and my MIL dapat bag. Thank you Pakteh... Terima kasih daun keladi...

Saturday (9-Feb-08)
Janji with SIL to depart at 9am. Pukul 10am baru gerak from home. I'm quite excited with this trip because haven't been back to Melaka for quite sometimes. I think it's been a year since I left FIST (my old faculty in MMU Melaka). On top of that selama beberapa tahun stayed in Melaka I've never been to the zoo there. Ni la baru pertama kali menjejakkan kaki ke Zoo Melaka with my family. Zoo Melaka jam that day.. Parking was full. Kena parking the other side of the road. Punya happening zoo melaka. Penat gak la pusing tengok binatang. Dah la takde stroller. My lil princess tu plak suka sgt nak berdukung. Penat! Haduh! Masuk around 11am and came out around 2pm. Pasai dah pukul 2pm, perut dah lapar, tekak dah haus dengan panasnya so we decided to eat at Ikan Bakar Malim. But because we arrived there quite late so the ikan bakar dah tak banyak. So we makan je lah apa yang ada. Lepas our late lunch singgah for Dzuhur prayer then off we went to Pengkalan Balak. Boleh tahan jauh gak tempat ni. Dah la dgn heavy traffic kat Melaka ni. Aduss.. Around 4 something gak la baru sampai. Sampai je, all the little rascals dah tak sabar nak mandi laut. Spent around 1 hour there then dalam 6pm we headed home. Hmm.. Penat!

Sunday (10-Feb-08)
Time to go back to KL. Before that sempat lagi singgah ke rumah SIL and my friend's in TTJ. Chit-chating, catching up with all the gossiping and makan. Kunun2nya nak balik malam to avoid the heavy traffic because for sure everyone is heading home after a long break. Went out from MIL house at 10pm, out of the SNWG toll, there's a long queue of cars waiting for us. Duh.. Redah je lah. Reach home around 11.45pm. Just nice for daddy to watch his Liverpool team playing. Home sweet home...

Hmmm.. tu lah cerita during CNY break. Panjang jugak I tulis ni ek.

Ok.. dah nak pukul 3am. Bila nak study ni? Orait lah.. enough blogging, start working! Daa..

A Remarkable Piece of Art

2008-02-06T20:17:00.000Z

Subhanallah. What else could I say. When you listen to Sami Yusuf's song titled Asma Allah it will drift you away. Its really beautiful. You'll feel you are in such a peaceful place. Allahuakbar! Just listen to it. You don't need anything else to put you into relaxing mood. Stress free mood!

Sorry, please....

2008-01-29T03:02:00.001Z

Last nite daddy was disturbing Asha (can't remember was actually daddy did). I think he accidently put her story book on her feet. Maybe that hurt a bit. So my gurl.. with her loud speaker said "Ayah... say sorry!". Hmmm.. usually I would say that to her if she did something wrong. But now it's her turn to say it back to us. Duh!

What Causes Your Child's Stomachache

2008-01-22T07:59:00.000Z

My baby frequently complains that she's having stomachache. Sometimes I'm a bit worried if I didn't feed her enough (coz sometimes when I asked her to eat/take her dinner she refused). Then I encountered this article from BabyCenter.com. I guess this tummy pain is common in children.

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My child says his stomach hurts. How can I figure out what's causing it?

Pinpointing the cause of a child's stomachache can be tricky. The key isn't just focusing on where the pain is, but also looking at what other symptoms he's having (or not having).

If your child says he has a stomachache when it's time to head to school, some stress could be to blame. If he just had supper and dessert and he's complaining of a stomachache but has no other symptoms, it may be nothing more than having eaten too much. But if he's feverish and vomiting or has diarrhea in addition to tummy pain, you can be sure something more serious is going on.

What causes tummy trouble in children?

The conditions below are the most common causes of stomach pain in children, although many others are possible. If your child suddenly becomes ill, has pain in his stomach that doesn't seem to go away or is getting worse, and you're at all concerned, call his doctor. It's always better to err on the side of caution.

1. Gastroenteritis or "stomach flu"

Is your child vomiting or suffering from diarrhea in addition to abdominal pain? If so, he could have gastroenteritis, also known as stomach flu. It's the most common illness in the United States after upper respiratory infections. Doctors use the term gastroenteritis to describe any inflammation of the stomach and intestines caused by a viral or bacterial infection. Viruses are the most common culprit, including rotavirus, adenovirus, calicivirus, and astrovirus. Gastroenteritis can also be caused by a potentially more serious bacterial infection, such as Salmonella, Shigella, Staphylococcus, Campylobacter, or E. coli. Still other cases are caused by parasites such as giardia. Your child's symptoms may be mild or severe, and they may last for just a few hours or for days, depending upon the cause. Because a virus is usually to blame for gastroenteritis, you can't treat it with antibiotics. But that doesn't mean you should sit back and wait for the ailment to run its course. If gastroenteritis is causing your child to vomit or have diarrhea and a fever and loss of appetite, it can quickly lead to dehydration, so it's important to make sure that your child is drinking plenty of fluids while he battles the illness. Watch for signs of dehydration and give the doctor a call if you think your child may be becoming dehydrated. If he shows serious signs of dehydration, take him to the emergency room. As soon as you can, you'll want to reintroduce your child's normal diet, avoiding only fatty foods.

2. Milk allergy or lactose intolerance

If your child has a milk allergy, his immune system is responding to the proteins found in milk. Milk allergies occur most often in babies and children. Symptoms include vomiting, diarrhea, stomach pain, and rashes. In severe cases of milk allergy, a child may experience a life-threatening reaction called anaphylactic shock. Lactose intolerance happens when a person's body isn't producing the enzyme needed to digest lactose, the primary sugar in milk. Symptoms include diarrhea, nausea, abdominal cramps, bloating, and gas. Lactose intolerance is uncommon in young children and usually shows up later in childhood or during the teen years. To pinpoint the cause, a doctor will recommend that you keep all dairy (including milk, cheese, ice cream, pudding, etc.) away from your child for a few days and then slowly reintroduce it. If your child's stomach troubles start up again, you've nailed the culprit. For kids with a milk allergy, soy milk may be the answer, but it's not for everyone: Five to 10 percent of kids who are allergic to milk are also allergic to soy. In that case, you'll need to talk to your child's doctor or a nutritionist about how to make sure your child gets enough calcium from other foods. If your child is lactose intolerant, the solution is easier. He can probably continue to have dairy as long as he takes a synthetic form of lactase, which you can find in an over-the-counter supplement. You can also buy lactose-free milk products.

3. Constipation and changes in diet

The most common stomach problem in young children — who are continuing to add more and more foods to their diet — is constipation. Constipation is defined as not having a bowel movement for two to three days and then passing small hard stools. If this is the case for your child, sit tight. After a few weeks, his digestive system will adjust to the changes in his diet and he'll start having regular bowel movements again. You can help jumpstart the process by making sure your child is getting enough fluids throughout the day. And on the days when he seems particularly constipated, feed him foods that produce looser stools (like apricots, pears, prunes, and peas) and cut back on those that tend to cause firmer stools (like bananas, apples and applesauce, carrots, rice, and squash). In addition, exercise can help get the bowels moving, so encourage your child to be active.

4. Upper respiratory illness

Believe it or not, the common cold and the flu can give a child a tummy ache. That's because much of the mucus produced during an upper respiratory illness drips down the throat. When your child swallows it, it can irritate his stomach.Some children vomit to clear the mucus out of their system. It's not pretty, but it usually does the trick and the pain goes away. Sometimes a more serious respiratory illness can give a child a stomachache as well. If your child has a sore throat, fever, and headache along with his tummy problems, he may have strep throat. Call your doctor immediately if you suspect that your child's stomachache may be related to a strep infection. This illness is caused by Streptococcus bacteria and needs antibiotic treatment.

5. Appendicitis

The classic symptoms of appendicitis are abdominal pain (especially in the lower right quadrant of the abdomen), fever, and vomiting. If your child has taken acetaminophen and it hasn't reduced his fever, his pain is worsening, and he can't keep anything down, including water, he may have appendicitis. Take him to his doctor or the emergency room.

6. Gas

You know as an adult how much having gas can hurt. It's painful for children as well. And it's a likely culprit behind persistent tummy pain that your doctor can't find a reason for. You might try to note what your child has recently eaten when he has a bout of gas. One possibility is too much juice. Many juices — including apple juice and cherry juice — contain sorbitol, a nondigestible form of sugar. The AAP recommends that children drink no more than 4 to 6 ounces (about 1/2 to 3/4 cup) of juice a day. Besides causing stomach upset, more than that can ruin his appetite for other nutrient-rich foods and cause tooth decay.

Welcoming 1429

2008-01-09T20:10:00.000Z

This evening we will bid farewell to another year of our lives. Have we done enough deeds to prepare us for the Day of Resurrection or there were too many sins committed for the past years? Have you set your new resolution? Look back at the old ones. Have you achieved what you have aim?

This year, I will

Observe my five obligatory prayers.
Seek for useful knowledge and spread it.
Endeavor to guard my tongue against lie, gossip and immoral talk.
Fear Allâh in all that me and my family eat and drink.
Abstain from all forbidden things.
Be kind to my parents and to my kith and kin.
Do well to all people and free my heart from jealousy and hatred.
Beware of bad thing about others.
Promote good and forbid evil.
Carry out my obligations towards my spouses and children in the best possible way
Guard my eyes from looking at forbidden things.

How beautiful it will be if this New Year is made a positive turning point in the lives of world communities where women properly cover themselves according to the injunctions of Allâh and in following the Sunnah of His Messenger. Each day in which the sun sets it reminds you that your lifespan is diminishing. The wise is the one who learns from his yesterday, struggles for his present day and provides for his tomorrow. The best provision is piety. Allâh says,

“O you who believe! Fear Allâh and keep your duty to Him. And let every person look to what he has sent forth for the morrow, and fear Allâh. Verily, Allâh is All-Aware of what you do.” (Al-Hashr 59:18)

May this coming year will always be blessed by His Almighty. Ameen.

Ms. Tan of the Day

2008-01-02T22:47:00.000Z

Today I made frequent visit to the toilet a.k.a. Ms. Tan. Not that I'm purging or what but the visits are merely to accompany the students to the toilet. Why do I need to go with them to the toilet? Not because I want to become Ms. Skodeng of the year but because it's the examination rule to avoid cheating. As if they won't be able to cheat when they're having their shee-shee or poo-poo. Huhuh..

Actually, I have to invigilate the exam today and the best part is, it was the 3 hours paper. Gosh! Penat kaki babe! Balik ni kena suruh daddy urut. Yang.. tolong! Ni pun tengah lenguh tahap maximum ni. Back to this toilet visit, I wonder why they have to urinate during exam time and how come they have time to go pass urine. During my study time, I never tot of going to the toilet during exam time. We were only given 2 hours and I think you have to make full use of this 2 hours. How come they got time to go eh? If you need to pass motion, that's acceptable la... That one, if you need to go, you need to go... Kang satu exam hall ada bau bucukk..... Hish.. why am I blogging about this thing today. Oh ya! the best part is I am the only lady invigilator there (actually got another old lady but serupa tade jugak dia kat situ.. Ni satu lagi yang buat aku hangin satu badan. Nama je depan ada Dr. Tapi takleh harap. Maybe because of the Dr. so mana standard nak teman student gi toilet.. so akak la jugak...). And most of the toilet visitors in my exam hall is ladies. Apa kena la depa ni... Minum banyak sangat ke??

My exam is in the morning, so I left the house by 7am today leaving AN who is still sound asleep. Daddy supposed to send her to nursery but later on cancelled because that little girl was crying for mummy. So Atok and Uwan decided to send her instead but at the end she just stayed at home with them. What la AN ni... So clingy, so mengada-ngada with ummi (Daddy's words) How la like this... Next sem lagi parah. Mummy got early in the morning class at 8am. How's the arrangement? I haven't decided yet. Should I send her to nursery early in the morning, which means I have to drop her off by 7am and that means I have to pay extra for OT. Should I ask my mother's help in sending her? My early morning class is on Tuesday and my mother got the Agama class on tuesday also. If possible I dun want to trouble her. Arghh... What options do I have?

My Way by Frank Sinatra

2007-12-31T09:44:00.000Z

I'm sooooooo into this song tonite. Dunno why but the melody is soooo-sooooo inspiring. Though the song is acually about a man who is nearing his death but the song has been playing for god-knows-how-many times tonite. It's 1.30am but I'm still wide awake. Daddy is watching Liverpool's game downstairs. So I'm all alone up here, with AN sleeping next to me. I'm so motivated to do my work tonite. Since it's so inspiring to me, I've decided to listen to this song whenever I'm doing my study so that the 'LAZY' word is out of my dictionary and I'll be all out to read, to code and to write. Sigh. See, still got time to blog!

Su! Back to work!

Words You Utter

2007-12-26T08:12:00.000Z

These are the words/sentences that my baby uttered recently..

-- If you burp in front of her, kalau dia tak dengar u cakap Alhamdulillah... siap lah u... dia akan kata.... "Cakap apa????".

-- Semalam, after came back from MIL's house, my mum dah siap2 nak gi my sis's house. Nak sambut menantu dia balik haji. Bawak lah si kecik ni sekali. In the car, si kecik ni cakap, "I nak pegi rumah kak wa". Wah-wah.. dia bahasakan diri dia I... boleh tahan anak aku ni...

-- Last nite pulak we went to Giant. Then pass-by one family ni. Dia ada anak who is wearing glases. I guess he is around my baby's age. My clever girl ni boleh cakap "Ummi, kenapa baby tu pakai glasses?". Alamak, apo den nak jawab ni?

-- At the wee hour last nite, si kecik ni terjaga, nak air kosong lah, susu lah. I checked on her, tgk2 dah basah. I said let's tukar ur nappy. She can say apa tau.. "Janganlah cakap...". Malu lah tuh, her pant is wet. Pandai pulak malu. Taknak tukar nappy. Tido lah dia bersama b****t dan seluar yang basah. Nasiblah tak basah sangat.

Birthday Celebration

2007-12-23T00:18:00.000Z

Last saturday (22/12/07) we had a BBQ to celebrate birthdays of Atok(22/12), Maktok(27/12) and Pakteh(also 27/12).

The sotongs are waiting to be grilled.

The marinated chicken and lamb. Yumm, yumm!

My dear darlin' is trying to start the upacara bakar membakar. Eh sape tu baju merah tu? Paklong ke? Nak kipas apa tuh?

The scrumptious food is sizzling on the grill.

Birthday boyz and gal.

Syukur Ya Allah atas segala yang telah kau kurniakan. Semoga kita semua sentiasa diberkatiNya dan berada di bawah lindungan Yang Maha Esa.

Eidul Adha Celebration

2007-12-21T07:03:00.000Z

Eidul Adha in my granny's place in Batu Kikir. We suppose to celebrate eid in MIL house but because my mum nak buat korban so we had to went back to Batu Kikir.

That's my sis, her daughter and my daughter on the way to the mosque.

Posing before sampai mosque

My baby duk termenung melihat sang lembu yang nak dikorbankan.

The slaughtering of sacrificial animal.

Tercipta Untukku

2007-12-19T03:38:00.000Z

menatap indahnya senyuman diwajahmu
membuat ku terdiam dan terpaku
mengerti akan hadirnya cinta terindah
saat kau peluk mesra tubuhku

banyak kata
yang tak mampu kuungkapkan
kepada dirimu

aku ingin engkau slalu
hadir dan temani aku
disetiap langkah
yang meyakiniku
kau tercipta untukku
sepanjang hidupku

aku ingin engkau slalu
hadir dan temani aku
disetiap langkah
yang meyakiniku
kau tercipta untukku
meski waktu akan mampu
memanggil seluruh ragaku
ku ingin kau tau
kuslalu milikmu
yang mencintaimu
sepanjang hidupku

O Lord, I am so blessed with what you have given me. Thank you Lord.>

Activities for the last 2 weekends

2007-12-18T07:25:00.000Z

It's been quite a while we didn't go back to MIL's house. Last was 24th Nov when Pak'njang's wedding. So, what we did for the past 2 weeks?

8th Dec '07

Pusat Jagaan Gemilang Sports Day. It was held in Taman Desa Water Park. Both hubby and her lil' princess took part in few activities. Lil' Princess won 2nd place in the fastest dress-up game. Not so bad la coz at least she came home with prizes. After all the games finished, apalagi... berendam sakan la... sampai taknak balik... So tan la ayah, mak dan anak....

15th Dec '07

Graduation Day Pusat Jagaan Gemilang. Actually this event is meant to celebrate the so called graduation day for the 6 years old kids. There are only 4 kids graduated (tak ramai since this is the first year the kindie starts their operation). My lil' princess was selected to take part in the runaway. At first I didn't know what to dress her up but at last I decided to turn her into a Princess. Bought the dress-up set in Toy's R Us. Luckily not that expensive. So my lil' princess is the princess of the day on that 15th.

16th Dec '07

MNCS Family Day. On this date we visit the same water theme park we went last week. But for different occasion. It's Ayah's office family day. This time around, lil' P do not have any activities to join coz' all the games for bigger children. At first she already queued up for one game but knowing her who is not that social enough yet, we pull out in the last minutes. So since no game she can play, she's been bugging me to swim with her (since Ayah is not available coz he's one of the organizing committee). Off we went to swim for God knows how many hours (I think we started around 11.30am till 3.00pm). We came home with one lucky draw prize (comforter set). Double tan for mak, anak and ayah.

17th Dec '07

On the way back from office Ayah told Ummi that he received another lucky draw prize. Hmm??? How come? We already received one yesterday. Guess what we got? Creative Zen MP3 player. Huhuh.. So nice... Ayah said can show off to Paksu coz his is an MP4 but cap ayam one. Heheh.. Rejeki..rejeki...

Will update on the photos later.

Quote of the Day...

2007-12-07T02:21:00.000Z

SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO BE SELFISH
THAT'S THE SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST.
=================================

How true is that? Can that be applied to your own family member? Especially to those superior than you? People always say "Syurga di bawah tapak kaki ibu", "Macamana pun, she's your mother.. yang dah membesarkan kamu.. she sacrificed a lot..".

By becoming a survivor will that mean you win? And with that winning, will that satisfy you? Can you say that you are now a fit person by surviving that way?

I don't know whether I should write this or not................

I do not know how to please her!

I think............... For her, me and hubby are just a burden. Menumpang di rumah dia. Mungkin dia tak sabar nak duduk di tanah & rumah baru bersama dengan anak yang lain. Anak yang selalu mencurahkan wang dah ringgit. Anak yang ni tak berharta.... Even she label my dear hubby as kedekut sebab kami ni jarang nak beli-membeli. Beli apa yang perlu saja.. Hmmm.. enough said and sins lah.

My dear darling has come to a point that he doesn't care anymore. "She's like that and you can't change it. Do whatever you want to please her it won't change anything". He even said that you might be appreciated when you don't live with her.

But the reason I moved back here to KL is to accompany her. Ingin jadi anak yang solehah yang ingin menemankan ibunya... tapi....................

Living under someone else nose is hard. It's so difficult to do your own thing. Difficult to lead your own life. Difficult to teach your own daughter a lesson. Once you do some things wrong, it will always be wrong to some people.

Who wants to be known as Si Tanggang?

Definitely I will not go to the extend of si Tanggang but as the quote of the day says, you have to think about yourself once in a while. Above all "sabar itu separuh daripada iman". I think most of the time I've been so patience and I will be like that for as long as I can..........

I have my own child and I do not know how my children going to think and treat me and my husband in the future. Let this experience be a lesson to me and hubby by not reinventing the wheels.

Another one is goin....

2007-12-06T06:56:00.000Z

Waaaa.... She's leaving.... Another friend is going.... UKM then might be off to UK.... kurang lagi kengkawan havoc :((

So Long Cik Yat....

2007-11-30T04:37:00.000Z

Last Friday was the last day for my officemate who is going to start her new working life in MIMOS. Quite sad :(( Bertambah kuranglah orang M di MMU ini.... Hmmmmm.....

This is my work of art sebagai tanda peringatan buat cik Yat kita...

cup cakes to celebrate...

MMU FIT/FOE Iron LAdies...

Bilik yang ditinggalkan cikYat, akan kami tinggalkan jugak pasal cik Umi dah tak tahan kepanasan terlampau bilik ni (eventually bilik ni akan ditinggalkan jugak once kami dah habis MSc kami.. berkobar nak siapkan tesis... aku dah buhsan....)

Don't

2007-11-16T04:44:00.000Z

Pagi2 ayah dah keluarkan proverb dia kat ummi.

DON'T COMPARE WITH WHAT IS WORST.
ALWAYS COMPARE WITH WHAT IS BEST.

tu dia.... pagi2 ummi dah kena..... heheheh........

THE GOOD SHEPHERDS: Choosing the Correct Path for Our Children

2007-11-16T03:50:00.000Z

By Ruqayyah bint Joan

It is narrated that a man came to a knowledgeable person from among our pious predecessors and asked him, "I just had a child, what should I do?" The answer came, "If you are just now asking this question, then you have already lost."

This narration shows how serious Muslims used to be about raising children. So much so that they told this man, who had just had a child that he had lost. This is because they believed correctly that the proper upbringing of a child begins even before the child is conceived. It begins by us being good Muslims ourselves, choosing good mates and educating ourselves about Islam, and how to be good parents and how to raise good Muslim children. Unfortunately, many Muslim parents today do not understand the importance of raising good Muslim children the way they should. This is why we find young Muslim girls giggling while talking to boys, talking about "he's sooo cute" and "I think he likes me." We find that young Muslim boys are getting Muslim and non-Muslim girls pregnant out of wedlock, and we find Muslim children of all ages turning to their parents and asking, "How much longer do I have to be Muslim?" Or, "I can't wait to get out of this house and stop practicing this stupid religion." (We seek protection from Allah from this.)

A while ago, a Muslim sister came to me seeking advice about what to do about her daughter who had run away from home to be with her Muslim 'boyfriend.' What could I say to her, except what the knowledgeable men had said to that man who came to them asking the same question, you have already lost.

As we go about our daily lives, pursuing our occupations as homemakers, doctors, businessmen, teachers or whatever they may be, how often do we forget that the most important job we have is being a shepherd, and that it is this job that Allah will call us to account for on the Day of Judgment. For Allah's Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, "All of you are shepherds and each one is responsible for his flock. A leader of a people is a shepherd and responsible for them. A man is a shepherd over his family and is responsible for them. A woman is a shepherd over her husband's house and his children and she is responsible for them. And a servant is a guardian over his master's property and is responsible for it. So all of you are guardians and are responsible for your charges." (Bukhari)

As parents, Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, has made us responsible for our families. It is the primary responsibility of parents to raise their children as Muslims. And therefore, as shepherds we must never give our children the impression that Islam is merely a series of rituals to be done in a certain way, day in, and day out. Rather, we should be keen to tell them and to convey to them Islam as a complete way of life, and it is the way of life that brings about true peace and happiness, in this world as well as the hereafter.

As shepherds, we must realize that it is our responsibility to guide our flock and to keep them away from the prohibited pastures. "Whoever indulges in these suspicious things is like a shepherd who grazes (his animals) near the hima (private pasture) of someone else and at any moment he is liable to get in it. (O people) Beware! Every King has a hima and the hima of Allah on the earth is His illegal (forbidden) things." (Bukhari)

Are we allowing our flocks to graze in the hima (prohited things) of Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala? Are we allowing our teenage daughter to go out without the proper hijab, or our teenage sons to talk to girls on the phone, because we are in America and everybody does it? Or more importantly, are we allowing them to do these things, because we ourselves do not find anything wrong with them?

Many parents feel as though they have fulfilled their duty of being a good shepherds (raising good Muslim children) by simply enrolling their children in the "Islamic Sunday School" at the local masjid. What we tend to forget is, children develop their opinions of Islam from the attitudes of their parents, and the importance that Islam is given in the home.

As parents, are we outraged when our children bring home bad grades from school, yet we are indifferent when that same child misses salah. Are we more concerned with our child's place in Harvard than we are with his place in the hereafter? Are our homes places where the Qur'an is only dusted off for the ritualistic reading during the month of Ramadhan? Is it a place where only fard salahs are observed and Allah and His Messenger are almost never mentioned? Then we are teaching our children that Islam is only worth a few hours on a Sunday morning, so we shouldn't be surprised when they begin to treat it that way.

So, how do we become good shepherds? The first step is to make a self-evaluation. We need to ask ourselves, are my feelings about Islam in accordance to what Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, requires of me? Does my action match my speech? How much of my time do I spend learning about Islam and/or worshiping Allah? Only after affirming the strengths and weaknesses of our own Islam and constantly striving in our practice of Islam, can we begin to guide our flock on the path that is pleasing to Allah.

As parents and as shepherds our primary responsibility is fulfilling the commands of Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, "O you who believe, save yourselves and your families from the fire." [66:6] Our flocks are the future of this deen. Are we raising them to be good shepherds?

Reprinted from Al-Jumuah Magazine

===================================================
The article reflects to what I have been thinking lately and all this while. This week I have been to one primary school situated in quite an elite place in the Klang Valley to do some work on my thesis. The first day I was there the school was having Hari Sambutan Kanak-kanak and the kids were having some performance. There were some performance on Nasyid, some were dancing. Few groups were performing modern dance and most of this modern dance performers were girls. Modern dance means dancing like people in the tv these days used to dance. Dengan hip hop nye, dengan ntah apa2 lagi lah. Then the next day, I went there again and it was the day where the children received their UPSR results. So again macam2 character I saw during that. Most of them sibuk dengan handphone. I guess they are busy telling their loved ones about their results. Baru 12 tahun dan ada handphone. Nanti anak aku macamana lah..... Come to think of it, I'm a bit scared on how my princess would grow up later. Frankly, I do not want my baby to terkinja2 atas pentas like that. But what if she's so interested in that field. What should I do. Should I say no to her? To avoid all the probably-happen-bad-influence in the future, should I ask her to wear hijab starting from now, send her and pick her up from school, monitor what she's watching (which means ASTRO is a big NO-NO), and all sorts of things. Will these stop her from the big bad wolf outside there. By saying this cannot, that cannot, can that make her a rebellious person. Nanti kalau semua tak boleh, when it's time to let her go, although deep down I don't want that to happen, which I know it will happen eventually especially when she finishes her high school, tak culture shock ke die? All this berlegar-legar kat my kepala from now on though AN is just only 2 yo old now. Ahaks..ahaks.... I know.... It is still early.... but.....I have to find the right formula to tackle all these big challenges that awaits me in the future.

Lambat lagi.......

2007-11-14T09:17:00.000Z

Hari ni ayah balik lambat lagi...
Minggu ni je everyday my dear hubby balik lambat...
ni semua pasal event heitech + compuware...

today dah settle satu... for govt. sector....
ayah was disappointed because the crowd turn out is not so encouraging....
nvm Yang... now concentrate for the next week event... hopefully the turn out will be good...
ni crowd tak memberansangkan nih... pudarlah harapan nak naik grade ni... camno ni Yang?
takpelah.. I know you have done your best... tak dpt naik, takde rezeki kita lah tu.......

to Ayah: ...me and adik......... MISS u so much.........
cepatlah abis event ni! so that we can see u... especially adik la... pasal every time u sampai umah, sure she doze off already.....

Salam Aidilfitri 2007

2007-10-19T05:09:00.000+01:00

Iftar @ Eden @ Subang Parade

2007-10-08T09:26:00.000+01:00

Mission Accomplished!

2007-10-08T05:22:00.000+01:00

Apa yang dah di accomplish kan ni?? Sebenarnya ni mission nak mempertemukan 2 sahabat saya dan hubby. Pertemuan diatur pada Sabtu lepas (06/10/2007) di mana kami telah berbuka puasa bersama di Eden @ Subang Parade. Saya, hubby dan AN; Miss I dan daughternya, MM (Miss I is my good friend); Mr. AS (Hubby's friend) dan rakannya. Hajatnya just nak kenalkan Miss I dengan Mr. AS lah. So kami pun buatlah plan. Since Mr. AS ni tersangatlah sibuk orangnya, pasal selalu je pi outstation. So finally, tercapailah jugak hajat nak jumpakan depa dua ni. Bagi kami (me & hubby), kami hanya membuka jalan untuk mereka berdua. Selebihnya terpulang pada depa lah. Mr. AS gave a good impression on Miss I although he was shocked at first on Miss I's situation while Miss I's response is malu... So I dunno whether she's ok with him or not. Maybe to open up her heart to someone else is a bit hard at first tapi lama2 ok lah kot. Hopefully. Sejak her late husband pass away takut jugak nak tanya kalau dia nak go out with someone else but since baru2 ni dia dah macam open up a bit, tu yang I approach dia tuh and she agrees to it. Ok lah tuh. I understand. She must be very2 lonely. Jaga anak sorang2, takde kawan nak bercerita, to share her ups and down. I really hope she will find someone who could take good care of her (and I hope it would be Mr. AS ni la. Ntah apa yang aku suka sangat ngan si AS ni pun aku tak tau la.. But above all, my hubby is the best.. of course.. jgn marah ye Yang......)

Frankly, aku pulak yang terover excited nak match make kan these 2 people.

Anyway, good luck and I hope Allah will bless this arrangement.
Hopefully there will be some other meetings arrange by themselves and.
Semoga persahabatan ini berpanjangan dan kalau boleh hingga ke jinjang pelamin (over tak??)

Tantrums: Why they happen and what to do about them

2007-09-18T02:29:00.000+01:00

by Bonnie Monte (http://parentcenter.babycenter.com/0_tantrums-why-they-happen-and-what-to-do-about-them_63649.pc)

Why 2-year-olds throw tantrums

A temper tantrum is the emotional equivalent of a summer storm — sudden and sometimes fierce, but often over as quickly as it starts. One minute you and your child are enjoying your dinner in a restaurant, the next she's whimpering, whining, and then screaming to go home. Two-year-olds are especially prone to such episodes.

Though you may worry that you're raising a tyrant, take heart — at this age, it's unlikely that your child is throwing a fit to be manipulative. More likely, she's having a meltdown in response to frustration. Often, your 2-year-old's language skills — or lack thereof — are to blame. "Two-year-olds are beginning to understand more and more of the words they hear, yet their ability to articulate their feelings and needs is limited," says Claire B. Kopp, professor of applied developmental psychology at California's Claremont Graduate University. As a result, frustration builds when your child can't express how she feels.

What to do when your 2-year-old pitches a fit

Don't lose your cool. A tantrum isn't a pretty sight. In addition to kicking, screaming, or pounding the floor, your child's repertoire may include throwing things, hitting, and even holding her breath until she turns blue (don't worry; she'll eventually come up for air). When your child is swept up in a tantrum, she's unable to listen to reason, though she will respond — negatively — to your yelling or threatening. "The more I shouted at Brandon to stop, the wilder he would get," says one mother. What worked instead, she discovered, was to just sit down and be with him while he raged.

Stomping out of the room — tempting as that may be — can make your child feel abandoned. The storm of emotion she's feeling can be frightening to her, and she needs to know you're nearby. Rather than leave her thrashing on the floor, go to her. If she's not flailing too much, pick her up and hold her. Chances are she'll find your embrace comforting, and will calm down more quickly.

Remember that you're the adult. No matter how long the tantrum goes on, don't give in to unreasonable demands or negotiate with your screaming child. It's especially tempting in public to cave in as a way of ending the episode. Try not to worry about what others think — anyone who's a parent has been there before. By conceding, you'll only be teaching your child that pitching a fit is the way to get what she wants, and setting the stage for future behavior problems. What's more, a tantrum is frightening enough for your child without her feeling that you're not in control, either.

If your 2-year-old's outburst escalates to the point where she's hitting people or pets, throwing things, or screaming nonstop, pick her up and carry her to a safe place, such as her bedroom, where she can't harm herself. Tell her why she's there ("because you hit your sister"), and let her know that you'll stay with her until she calms down. If you're in a public place — a common breeding ground for tantrums — be prepared to leave with your child until she gets a grip.

"My daughter had an absolute fit at a restaurant because the plain spaghetti she ordered arrived with chopped parsley on it," another mother recalls. "Although I realized why she was upset, I wasn't about to let her disrupt everyone's dinner. I took her outside until she calmed down."

Talk it over afterward. When the storm subsides, hold your child close and talk about what happened. Acknowledge her frustration, and help her put her feelings into words, saying something like, "You were very angry because your food wasn't the way you wanted it," Kopp suggests. Let her see that once she expresses herself in words, she'll get better results. Say with a smile, "I'm sorry I didn't understand you. Now that you're not screaming, I can find out what you want."

Try to head off tantrum-triggering situations. Pay attention to what pushes your child's buttons and plan accordingly. If she falls apart when she's hungry, carry snacks with you. If she has trouble making a transition from one activity to the next, give her a gentle heads-up before a change. Alerting her to the fact that you're about to leave the playground or sit down to dinner ("We're going to eat when you and Daddy are done with your story") gives her a chance to adjust instead of react.

Your child is grappling with independence, so offer her choices when you can. No one likes being told what to do all the time. Saying, "Would you like corn or carrots?" rather than "Eat your corn!" will give her a sense of control. Monitor how often you're saying no, too. If you find you're rattling it off routinely, you're probably putting unnecessary stress on both of you. Ease up and choose your battles — after all, would it really wreck your schedule to spend an extra five minutes at the playground?

Watch for signs of overstress. Though daily tantrums are a perfectly normal part of the terrible twos, you do need to keep an eye out for possible problems brewing. Has there been upheaval in the family? An extremely busy or harried period? Tension between you and your partner? All of these can provoke tantrums. If after the age of 2 1/2 your child is still having major tantrums every day, talk to her pediatrician. If she's younger than 2 1/2 but has three or four tantrums a day and isn't cooperating with any routines, such as getting dressed or picking up toys, you also may want to seek help. The pediatrician can make sure that a physical or psychological condition isn't contributing to the problem, and suggest ways to deal with the outbursts.

Happy Birthday, Ummi...

2007-09-11T04:32:00.000+01:00

Yesterday, 10/09/2007, was my 31st birthday.
Wow.. I have gone into the 30s arena.
Hmm.. What have I achieved?

Thanks Daddy & AN for the birthday song that you sang early in the morning. Ummi loves you both so much.

Thanks to Angah & Adik for their wishes.
Mak? Her birthday wish was very brief unlike her wish to......
I know who I am..... I am nobody to her...
I do not shower her with money... so I meant nothing...
Anyway... my day is not for me to grieve on something that I could care the least.

Thanks Czar, Fiza, Fae & my dear sista, Ifa for remembering my day.

Thanks to my officemate, Cik Ju, Zae_la, Afzan and Yat. The Alamanda treat was greatly appreciated.

The most thank is to the One up there that gave me the chance to still breath till today and enjoy the precious time together with my family and friends. Hope He will always bless each and everyone of us.

Saya Sayang Allah

2007-09-04T04:41:00.000+01:00

This is the song that I think AN learns in school recently.
She starts singing this song yesterday.
When I heard she mumbles this song, I straight away relate to song ‘Satu,satu…Saya sayang ibu…’ which I learnt when I was a little girl. Ayah even asked me how do I know that was the song that AN was singing. I just don’t know.. It just clicked to my mind lah Ayah… Here goes the song that AN sang…

Satu, satu… Saya sayang Allah
Dua, dua… Sayang Rasulullah
Tiga, Tiga… Sayang Ibu Ayah
Satu, Dua, Tiga… Sayang semuanya…

Ummi & Ayah pun sayang adik jugak……………

My Baby is 2 years old today!

2007-04-17T07:26:00.000+01:00

Wah... ari ni adik dah 2 tahun... kejap je rasanya....

Pagi2 adik bangun ngan mood yg tak best...
bangun2 je nangis... yang umi plak suka sangat kacau adik...
tau adik tak suka umi peluk ayah... so umi pun peluk lah ayah...
adik apa lagi, show tantrum lah pagi2... kesian adik...
uwan, pagi2 dah call nak cakap ngan adik... nak cakap ngan joyah, uwan cakap.
but because mood dia tak baik... dia takmo ler cakap ngan uwan... kesian uwan...

sent adik to school... bagi skali choc.cake yang uwan dah siapkan utk adik n frens...

ayah asked umi to think of nak dinner kat mana tonight sempena hari lahir adik...
i dunno lah ayah... TGI Friday ok ker???

Buat anak umi tersayang.....
A'shadieeyah Nabeeha.....
Semoga anak umi akan membesar menjadi seorang yang berguna kepada keluarga, agama, bangsa dan negara.
Semoga anak umi menjadi anak yang
..... solehah
..... sihat
..... sentiasa dihindari dari sebarang penyakit
..... comel
..... cerdik
..... bijak
..... pandai
..... pintar
..... cerdas
..... cergas
..... aktif
..... sentiasa mendengar kata
..... sentiasa taat kepada ibubapa
..... sentiasa menghormati orang tua
Semoga dirimu sentiasa diberkati dan dirahmati oleh Allah selalu...

Inilah yang selalu umi doakan untuk anak kesayangan umi ni...

Ameen..........

Bloggers must be responsible

2007-01-24T02:15:00.000Z

source: http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2007/1/24/nation/16663444&sec=nation

LONDON: Bloggers must be responsible for what they write on the Internet as there are laws on defamation and sedition, Datuk Seri Abdullah Ahmad Badawi said.

The Prime Minister said these laws were enforceable and bloggers must bear in mind that they could not hide or take advantage of the Internet to do something that was against the law.

“They cannot hope to cover themselves or hide from the laws,” he told Malaysian journalists at the end of his three-day working visit here yesterday.

He said bloggers, just like newspaper journalists, must be responsible for what they wrote or risk facing legal action from others.

Abdullah was commenting on the legal action against bloggers Jeff Ooi and Ahirudin Attan by the New Straits Times Press (M) Bhd (NSTP), its deputy chairman Datuk Kali-mullah Masheerul Hassan, Group Editor in Chief Datuk Hishamuddin Aun and former Group Editor Brenden John Pereira.

He raised the question of “what was freedom without responsibility,” saying that laws must be respected.

On the lack of proficiency in English among teachers and lecturers, he said there was a need to improve the curriculum and methods to teach English in schools.

He added that Malaysians must understand that English was an international language.

Abdullah was responding to questions from journalists on the declining standard of English in Malaysian schools and universities.

Earlier, Abdullah told Malaysian students at the London School of Economics of the need for Malaysia to be competitive, pointing out the paces already made by the Chinese and India.

My comment:

Why up until this extent? Why do they feel threatened by fellow bloggers. Most of these bloggers, their writing comes from their sense of responsibilities. They raise up issues that they feel it's worth looking into. I doubt they simply write any matters without giving a thorough thought. I know some blogger who present their facts right with their writings? These fellow do their research first before blabbing it out. Haih.. Sometimes we have to read something besides what the media provide to us!

In describing today's accelerating changes, the media fire blips of unrelated information at us. Experts bury us under mountains of narrowly specialized monographs. Popular forecasters present lists of unrelated trends, without any model to show us their interconnections or the forces likely to reverse them. As a result, change itself comes to be seen as anarchic, even lunatic -- Alvin Toffler.

AN First Encounter to Photography

2007-01-18T08:27:00.000Z

Ada gaya jadi photographer tak? This was taken by my lil' pumpkin on 16 January 2007. So symbolic isn't it?

Bilakah..

2007-01-18T04:00:00.000Z

PERSOALAN BILAKAH..

..Ummi nak update blog? Daddy yang tanya. Malasnya...

..nak habis belajar? Lamanya rasa...

..nak p****d ni? Perut macam dah 2/3 kali sakit, tapi takde tanda2 pun...

..nak ada rumah sendiri? Lately ni rasa boring duduk ngan my m****r. So unpredictable.

..dapat settle all the hutangs. Hutang belajar, hutang credit cards, wah... so many one lah...

..dapat beli kereta import (why import)? Kereta nasional dah puas naik dah...

..dapat decorate rumah sendiri? Bumbung rumah pun tak nampak lagi.. dah berangan nak decorate...

..dapat pergi mencantikkan diri? Member2 sumer pegi Marie France lah... pakat2 nak kurus, takut laki buat hal.. aku?? kunun nak gi exercise, gi gym kat M*U ni.. hampeh...

..duitku nak bertambah berlipat ganda ni? Kebanyakkan persoalan bilakah di atas, semuanya memerlukan persoalan yang satu ni. Haih...

..dah... bila nak buat kerja ni? Kerja office semakin banyak. Research lagi. Tak buat2 pun? Asyik bloghopping jer...

BACK TO WORK!

First kiss from the ground

2006-12-29T04:46:00.000Z

Ummi's little girl memang suka play with the slide nowadays. First time was when Atok D and Uwan brought AN to the playroom in Hospital Pakar Damansara while visiting Mama. AN didn't want to go home. Then during the Christmas weekend, we went to Seremban 2 City Park with Maktok, Kakak A, Abg. F, Makngah & Pakngah (24 Dec). Stayed there, play in the playground and feed the fishes. The next day (25 Dec), when were already in KL, we brought AN to KLCC park. She was enjoying every minutes there. And we got summoned by DBKL as well there for illegal park. Tak pasal2 kena bayar RM30. And then... 2 days later (27 Dec) my lil pumpkin fell. Jatuh while playing slide kat nursery. I told the nanny.. takpa.. experience.. kalu tak jatuh, nnt tak pandai plak nak balance body nak naik slide... as long takde head injury, i think it should be ok... to my 'ma bu ji'.. please be extra careful when you are playing outside coz mommy and daddy are not there all the time to look after you. We can just du'a that He will take a good care of you when we are not there. Ameen...

With Makngah and Kak A feeding the fish.

Look at the happy face when she sliding down from the slide. The problem is she doesn't know yet how to control her body when she's at the end of the slide so mommy got to be there to wait.

In the tunnel.

Look at the bruises at her lower lip, on her chin and just underneath her left nose-hole.

My 20 months (1 year 8 months) old girl.

2006-12-22T07:40:00.000Z

This is my little princess who turns 20 months old last Sunday (17 December 2006). How time flies so fast. My baby is already a big girl. Every time I look at her when she sleeps, I see a girl who day by day growing up into a very bright and 'kepochi' (she talks a lot, makes loads of noise and very loud with her some understandable and not understandable words) little girls. Her recently learned word is '..pat' means 'cepat'. This morning, while I'm upstairs getting ready to work, she was downstairs playing with Atuk D. Atuk had asked her to say "Ummi..pat!" to ask me to hurry up. So she was saying it gleefully for many times.

Adek wearing Uwan's head scarf. To put the scarf on I had to run around the house for her.

Nampak cam malassss jer.. mengada-ngada sebenarnya ni...

She was trying to grab the camera I'm holding. Naughty arr u.....

Trip to Johor (9th-12th Dec 2006)

2006-12-13T04:36:00.000Z

Since last Monday was a public holiday for Selangor state, we decided to pay AN Maklang's a visit in Johor Bahru. We (Daddy, Mommy, Maktok, Paktam & Aishah) went there on Saturday afternoon till Tuesday (9th-12 Dec). Bertolak ke JB after pegi kenduri rumah Ust. Mustafa around 3.00pm. Stop sekejap kat R&R Machap. Then sampai rumah maklang around 6.00pm. Daddy was driving all the way there (to and fro). Kesian Daddy.. Penat? Takpe lah.. Dah dapat ubat kan... tapi supplement je lah ek... Toll was RM33.30. My goodness.. Pegi time Paktam bayar balik we all cover. No wonder maklang balik sekali-sekala je..

In JB, we went to Hutan Bandar. It's like a Wet World but for kids la... Picnic kat sana. After that, singgah Danga Bay to shop lepas tu makan in Jusco Tmn. Universiti. The next day tu, we went to rumah Kak Eton. Planned to go to Saleng's Zoo before that tapi tak jadi cause entrance fees dia mahal. Actually not that bad lah (Adult RM12 and Children RM6) tapi pasal tgh bulan kan... so hasrat to go and see the animals dibatalkan. Mommy mmg teringin nak bwk AN to see animals. New experience for her. Last time tot nak gi Aquaria tapi belum la ter'realise' lagi hasrat tu.. bila la agaknya dpt pegi... Since tak jadi nak pegi Zoo Saleng, so we lepak2 je kat IOI Mall Johor before heading to Kak Eton's house coz janji ngan dia nak datang around tengahari.. Where else to go besides the mall? Tempat yang sejuk dan terlindung dari cahaya matahari.. heheh.. kat mall tak buat pape lah selain shopping baju for Ayah and Daus. After lunch in Kak Eton's house, we headed back to Maklang's house but before sampai rumah sempat lagi pegi Jusco (tempat shopping tetap maklang) to buy some tidbits to bring back to Senawang tomorrow. Emak sempat sambar satu handbag coz she's been wanting for bags that she can put her purse and telekung together. After shopping, balik rumah.. Petang, tak disangka2, Abg. Mis lak sampai with his fiancee. Dapat la tgk tunang Abg. Mis... As usual my AN, with her mulut bising (mommy pun tak perasan that she's so kepochi until in maklang's house) making the rumah riuh-rendah with her not so understandable words such as 'ma bo ji' (wonder what does that mean..) and her naik-turun tangga trip (sampai maklang kena block the stairs entrance. Lepas abg. Mis balik, and after dinner, we went to Abg. Maketab's (Daddy's friend back in US) house in Tmn. Pulai Utama. Thanks to Paklang for sending us there, coz kalau pegi sendiri I dun think we could sampai to his house. Even we went with Paklang also we got lost. Balik around 10pm. Sampai rumah terus tido.. AN mmg dah tido dari awal dah.. sampai je rumah Abg. Maketab mmg dah lelap coz past her bed time plus keletihan berjalan during daytime.

Day 3, bersiap nak balik. I suggested to daddy singgah Ayer Hitam, kot2 mak nak beli any pottery. Ye lah... alang2 dah sampai Johor, singgah lah kan... Daddy said it's me or emak yang nak beli ni... Keluar dari rumah maklang around 9.30am (budget dlm 10am. tp since everybody dah ready awal so chow awal la..) Sampai in Ayer Hitam around 10.30am. Emak ckp dia nak window shopping je sebab dah takde budget, sekali dah sampai kedai beli jugak... Paktam ckp, ni lah mak nye window shopping... heheh.. sama je lah anak ngan mak a.k.a. Ami & emak. Around 11.30. out from Ayer Hitam heading back to Senawang. Sampai Senawang around 2pm.

Balik2, tgk ayah punya kereta kena langgar… Dah berlubang red Ferrari ayah... heheh… Anyway, tu lah cerita trip ke Johor. We planned next trip will be to Kelantan plak. Nak serbu Along’s place. Tak tau la plak bile…

A day in Subang Parade

2006-12-07T05:53:00.000Z

Last Saturday we went to Subang. The initial plan was to look for educational toys in Kompleks 3K since they were having some warehouse sales there. We bought some toys which could stimulate AN's eyes (although it's not quite like what K.C. Chu want), headed to A&W which is inside the Kompleks itself (I gave AN drank the float..and thanks to mommy, AN's catch another flu) and later went to Subang Parade for jalan-jalan. So here are the pixes of me and my princess there.

AN is on stage with the beautiful and adorable Christmas gifts.

A cheeky pose.

AN and mommy with the beautiful background. Look at AN giving a naughty look.

Another pose with the whitish Christmas trees.

An outing will never complete without a visit to a bookshop. How I wish I have bookshelves that filled with books like that at home...

Watch what you said, daddy...

2006-12-07T05:43:00.000Z

I found this in scholastics.com

Keep Talking, Dad

When it comes to a child's speech development, fathers may have more influence than mothers. Researchers at the Frank Porter Graham Child Development Institute videotaped 92 families with children under 1 year old during free-play sessions in their homes, then reviewed parents' speech patterns. Once the children turned 3, researchers checked their language skills. One of the main predictors of high scores was the number of different words fathers used, while mothers' speech didn't seem to have an effect.

So you better watch what you said daddy... it seems that mommy's speech doesn't have an effect... so... ENGLISH please!!!!

10 Keys to Growing a Brilliant Child from Birth to Adulthood

2006-11-22T03:09:00.000Z

Source: http://www.all-gifted-children.com/

1. Start as early as possible. Start now. Whatever your child's age is - don't delay. If yours
is a newborn, it is a perfect time to start. If your child is a teenager - it is not too late. As
parents, it is our privilege, and our obligation to take care of our child's education. Now
is the best time to start.

2. Make it fun. For children, learning is fun. What does a child do when he plays
with his toys? He is diligently learning about his environment. If you observe a young child playing with his toys, you can see that when a child has completed learning all that he can learn from a toy, he tosses it aside, and looks for a new one! Keep it light and fun. This will ensure that your child grows to be a life long learner.

3. You are your child's natural teacher. No matter how many teachers your child has or will have in school and outside of school, you are his first and most important teacher. Take advantage of this and make sure you teach your child valuable lessons.

4. We all underestimate the ability of children to learn. When babies can't speak yet we don't know how much they can learn and how fast they learn. We don't know how much they can understand. But this is a very valuable period of time. At this time your child is learning his mother tongue. At this time your child has an amazing talent to recognize patterns. You can take advantage of this important period of time to teach your child many things related to language skills, like vocabulary, reading and more.

5. If you expose your child to many subjects and activities your child will show you
what he is interested in. Then you can take advantage of his interest and relate other
subjects to it. Let your child lead the way.

6. Children hate to be tested. Never test your child or it will stop being fun for him.
Trust that whatever learning activity you are doing with your child is successful.
Trust that your child is learning. Never doubt that. When it is the right time your
child will show you how much he learned.

7. Children learn much faster than we adults do. If you want to keep your young child interested, you have to move at your child's speed - fast.

8. Your child's self confidence and self esteem are most important. Look for things to praise him for and avoid criticism. Every day, when your child goes to bed discuss the day's events and mention all the successes and achievements of the day. Get into the habit of doing this, it will make a big difference in your child's confidence.

9. Teach your child to set goals early on. Set yearly, monthly, weekly and daily goals. Teach your child how to put together a plan, and how to change the plan when it is necessary. At the end of the year celebrate the child's achievements. Make sure your child knows how successful he is.

10. Make sure your child knows that it's OK to make mistakes. It's OK to try and fail. Failure is just a learning opportunity, a signal to try a different way. A child that knows this will not be discouraged or give up. A child that knows this lesson will keep a healthy self esteem and confidence in spite of occasional set backs.

The more you teach your child, the stronger the bond between you. As you watch your child develop, succeed and meet his own goals, the memories you are creating together will turn into the dearest memories in your child's life, and in your own.

Raya 2006

2006-11-16T09:31:00.000Z

Here are some pixes from eid 2006. This year we celebrated it in hubby's parents house. Then we went back to my granny's place.

Pose from everyone for Eid 2006

Pose of all the bujangs with ayah and mak

Bermaaf-maafan time

Hubby and her princess

Pose of ayah and mak

Maklang and family

Haaa.. this is our family photo for Eid 2006.
Slack je tudung AN too kebawah... Mommy pun tak perasan tudung AN tak cun.... ish..ish..

And finally.... our little princess nicely tucked in her tudung and baju kurung.....
Isn't she so adorable........

Mommy's back.... with new routine!

2006-11-16T08:56:00.000Z

Hello..........

I'm back... wah... so long I didn't blog. I've been busy with work, study, moving office & moving house. I'm now back in KL. Managed to get work transfer from Melaka to Cyberjaya. So now I'm living with my mother. Hubby had sold his BDY. So now we only use one car, WNM, which is actually belongs to my bro.

Daily routine nowadays is sent AN to her nursery. It opens at 7.30 am. Normally we'll be in front of the gate before 7.30 am and drop her off once the nanny is there. Then, off to USJ to send hubby. Drop him there and next destination is Cyberjaya. Around 5.00 pm, I'll be shooting back to USJ. It doesn't take me long to USJ (thanks to the expressway). I'll be there before 5.30 pm, wait for hubby then off we go.... We'll reach home around 7.00 pm. AN will be at home early bcoz her Uwan will pick her up from the nursery. Basically, that's our new routine.

She's walking...

2006-07-19T05:08:00.000+01:00

Despite the on-and-off fever, flu and other illnesses, AN has started walking. Ummi so HAPPY.... She really shows her interest in walking last Saturday (15/07/06) and start practicing without feeling tired. My AN is so determine. Although she was down with fever last Sunday until today (Wednesday), she is still active. That's the spirit. My baby is so strong..... I'll post her first steps pics in the next entry.

Why do we read Quran, even when we can't understand a single Arabic word??

2006-06-21T03:58:00.000+01:00

An old American Muslim lived on a farm in the mountains of eastern Kentucky with his young grandson. Each morning Grandpa was up early sitting at the kitchen table reading his Quraan.
His grandson wanted to be just like him and tried to imitate him in every way he could.
One day the grandson asked, "Grandpa, I try to read the Quraan just like you but I don't understand it, and what I do understand I forget as soon as I close the book.
What good does reading the Quraan do?"
The Grandfather quietly turned from putting coal in the stove and replied, "Take this coal basket down to the river and bring me back a basket of water."
The boy did as he was told, but all the water leaked out before he got back to the house.
The grandfather laughed and said, "You'll have to move a little faster next time," and sent him back to the river with the basket to try again.
This time the boy ran faster, but again the basket was empty before he returned home.
Out of breath, he told his grandfather that it was impossible to carry water in a basket, and he went to get a bucket instead.
The old man said, "I don't want a bucket of water; I want a basket of water.
You're just not trying hard enough," and he went out the door to watch the boy try again.
At this point, the boy knew it was impossible, but he wanted to show his grandfather that even if he ran as fast as he could, the water would leak out before he got back to the house.
The boy again dipped the basket into river and ran hard, but when he reached his grandfather the basket was again empty.
Out of breath, he said, "See Grandpa, it's useless!"
"So you think it is useless?" The old man said, "Look at the basket."
The boy looked at the basket and for the first time realized that the basket was different. It had been transformed from a dirty old coal basket and was now clean, inside and out.
"Son, that's what happens when you read the Quraan. You might not understand or remember everything, but when you read it, you will be changed, inside and out. That is the work of Allah in our lives."

Kesilapan Dalam Mendidik Anak-Anak.

2006-06-14T03:37:00.000+01:00

Sumber : Jalinan Keluarga
diubahsuai dari Kuliah Mingguan Surau An-Nur
10 Jun 1998 oleh Ustaz Khalid Haji Mohd Isa

"Harta benda dan anak-anak kamu hanyalah menjadi ujian dan di sisi ALLAH ada pahala yang besar." (Al-Quran Surah At-Taghabun, 64:15)

Anak-anak adalah amanah dari ALLAH s.w.t. dan ianya sebahagian dari ujian ALLAH s.w.t. kepada kita hamba-hamba-Nya. Sebagai ujian, ianya akan dipertanggungjawabkan. Orang yang malang ialah orang yang mempunyai ramai anak tetapi anak-anaknya tidak membawa kebaikan kepadanya di akhirat.

Rasulullah SAW diberitakan telah bersabda : "Tahukah engkau siapakah orang yang mandul." Berkata para sahabat :
"Orang yang mandul ialah orang yang tidak mempunyai anak." Lalu Rasulullah SAW berkata : "Orang yang mandul itu ialah orang yang mempunyai ramai anak tetapi anak-anaknya itu tidak memberi kemanfaatan kepadanya sesudah ia meninggal dunia."-(Maksud Al-Hadith )

Ini mungkin disebabkan beberapa kesilapan dalam mendidik anak-anak.

1. Kesilapan pertama: Kurang berdoa

1.1 Kurang berdoa semasa mengandung. Antara doa-doa yang digalakkan diamalkan semasa mengandung ialah
-Saidul (penghulu) Istighfar
-Doa memohon rahmat (Al-Quran Surah Ali 'Imran, 3 : 8-9)
-Doa memohon zuriat yang baik (Al-Quran Surah Ali 'Imran, 3 : 38)
-Doa agar anak mengerjakan solat (Al-Quran Surah Ibrahim, 14 : 40-41)

1.2 Kurang berdoa semasa membesarkan anak. Doa-doa yang digalakkan diamalkan semasa anak membesar ialah
-Doa agar anak patuh kepada ALLAH s.w.t. (Al-Quran Surah Al-Baqarah, 2 :128)
-Doa diberi zuriat yang menyejukkan hati (Al-Quran Surah Al-Furqan, 25 :74)
-Doa supaya nama anak membawa kebaikan kepadanya.

2. Kesilapan kedua: Banyak memberi belaian Tarhib (menakutkan) daripada Targhib (didikan atau motivasi) seperti :
menakutkan anak-anak dengan sekolah menakutkan dengan tempat gelap menakutkan dengan hutan rimba atau bukit bukau menggunakan kekerasan dan paksaan semasa menyuruh anak tidur

3. Kesilapan ketiga: Tidak tegas dalam mendidik anak-anak
tidak menjadualkan kegiatan harian anak-anak terlalu memfokuskan anak-anak kepada sesuatu aktiviti sahaja tanpa mengambil kira perasaan mereka.

4. Kesilapan keempat: Menegur anak secara negatif
mengeluarkan kata-kata kesat dan maki hamun kepada anak-anak (terutama semasa marah). Membandingkan anak-anak dengan anak-anak lain atau anak orang lain.

5. Kesilapan kelima: Memberi didikan yang tidak seimbang antara jasmani (physical), rohani (spiritual) dan minda (intelektual) ramai yang lebih mementingkan pendidikan minda dari pendidikan rohani

6. Kesilapan keenam: Kurang memberi sentuhan kepada semua anak-anak sedangkan Rasulullah kerap dilihat mendukung cucu-cucunya dan mencium mereka. Diriwayatkan oleh Aisyah r.a. : Pada suatu hari Rasulullah SAW mencium Al-Hassan atau Al-Hussien bin Ali r.a. Ketika itu Aqra' bin Habis At-Tamimiy sedang berada di rumah baginda. Berkata Aqra' : "Ya Rasulullah! Aku mempunyai sepuluh orang anak, tetapi aku belum pernah mencium seorang pun dari mereka." Rasulullah melihat kepada Aqra' kemudian berkata : "Siapa yang tidak mengasihi tidak akan dikasihi."-(Maksud Al-Hadith Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim)

7. Kesilapan ketujuh: Penampilan diri yang kurang anggun dan kurang kemas
ibu bapa tidak menunjukkan cara berpakaian yang kemas dan yang menepati kehendak syarak bila berada di rumah, iaitu berpakaian secara selekeh atau berpakaian seksi di hadapan anak-anak.

8. Kesilapan kelapan: Susunan rumahtangga yang tidak kemas. Ini mengakibatkan anak-anak terikut-ikut dengan cara itu dan membesar menjadi pemalas dan selekeh.

9. Kesilapan kesembilan: Kurang menghidupkan sunnah di rumah seperti memberi salam, makan berjemaah, beribadah bersama-sama, dan sebagainya. Dalam menjawab salam, lazimkanlah menjawab salam dengan yang lebih baik dari salam yang diberi.

10. Kesilapan kesepuluh: Tidak menggantungkan rotan di tempat yang mudah dilihat oleh anak-anak. Dalam Islam, merotan anak dengan tujuan mendidik adalah satu sunnah.

11. Kesilapan kesebelas: Kurang mendedahkan anak-anak dengan model yang cemerlang seperti para ulama' dan orang-orang yang berhemah tinggi dan berakhlak mulia. Anak-anak juga patut didedahkan dengan sembahyang jemaah, kuliah agama dan aktiviti-aktiviti yang bersesuaian dengan akhlak Islam.

12. Kesilapan keduabelas: Bertengkar di depan anak-anak. Ini akan menyebabkan anak-anak rasa tertekan dan membenci salah seorang dari ibubapanya.

13. Kesilapan ketigabelas: Membenarkan orang yang tidak elok sahsiyahnya masuk ke dalam rumah kita, baik dari kalangan sahabat sendiri ataupun sahabat anak-anak, kerana ini akan memberikan contoh yang tidak baik kepada anak-anak yang masih membesar.

14. Kesilapan keempatbelas: Kurang mengawasi rancangan-rancangan yang ditonton samada dari TV ataupun video. Pengawasan dalam hal ini adalah penting kerana kebanyakan rancangan dari media ini menonjolkan akhlak yang kurang baik seperti pergaulan bebas lelaki dan perempuan, pakaian yang tidak menepati syarak dan perbualan yang boleh merosakkan agama anak-anak.

15. Kesilapan kelimabelas: Terlalu bergantung kepada pembantu rumah untuk mendidik anak-anak. Sebagai ibubapa kitalah yang akan disoal di akhirat kelak akan anak-anak ini. Oleh itu adalah menjadi satu kepentingan kita untuk berusaha memastikan anak-anak terdidik dengan didikan Islam.

My Manja..

2006-06-13T08:51:00.000+01:00